• Grass@sh.itjust.works
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    2 hours ago

    I still don’t understand sports fans and how they interact with each other. I just buy my thing and leave, maybe talk for a bit if its an item that would imply same hobbies or something but I the only place I’ve had drinks with randos is at a vegas card table and even that was uncomfortable.

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      1 hour ago

      imply same hobbies or something

      They’re both into the same team so probably wearing a Jersey or something for game day. Something to talk about. The situation with the spouses was also an easy ice breaker.

  • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech
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    8 hours ago

    This is honestly so heartwarming. Adult dudes have such a hard time meeting other guys, this actually makes me happy seeing two dudes just meet and say hello

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      “Hey honey, I fear for my life in this situation I engineered. Because of your gender I need you to go face that danger instead. BTW if you don’t do this, I will question your gender identity.”

      Even in your own little bubble, your hate doesn’t make sense.

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        I know this obviously wasn’t your intention, but you managed to encapsulate the attitude of my ex and her family to the letter.

        I grew up with food insecurity and poverty, she came from wealth. My family was always open and honest about our thoughts and feelings, her family had strict expectations and roles.

        Both her and her mom would constantly engineer situations where I would be forced to prove my masculinity, regardless of how uncomfortable, scared, tired, or belittled I felt. This included things like going out to dinner during a snow storm, moving us from one apartment to another on my own, trying to convince me to physically assault someone else to “defend” her, and purchasing heavy items online that she couldn’t lift and while I was injured.

        In hindsight I can see and understand how toxic that relationship was, but at the time I was excited to be receiving any positive attention from someone I was attracted to (whenever I was able to fit their mold), and didn’t know any better.

        Apologies for the long rant, your comment hit the nail on the head and also apparently triggered those memories for me.

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      Ngl it’s a pretty sweet gig, although lately the het part has been kinda dubious.

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      2 hours ago

      You’re not wrong there, my friend - I stride through life on easy level knowing that nothing bad nor troublesome will ever have any bearing on me, nor my life, in any way whatsoever. It is a most relaxing life.

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      6 hours ago

      I’m not sure I’d call it “relaxing,” but It’s definitely easy mode.

      Of course, that’s why so many of the losers among us go off the right-wing/incel deep end: if you’re living on easy mode and you still manage to fail, you’ve got nobody to blame but yourself. But they can’t handle that either, so they go fucking insane desperately trying to find scapegoats.

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        Yeah, the pressure to never show emotion, to always be strong and never ask for help, to try not to show the distress at being inherently distrusted because so many people who happen to share the same kind of chromosomes. Totally easy mode.

        Just because it’s less stressful than some other demographics doesn’t make it, in any way, easy. Just slightly less difficult.

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      6 hours ago

      That’s awfully presumptuous. Maybe Adam over here is getting some dick on the side, you don’t know his life.

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    7 hours ago

    Bro can’t even text his wife that he isn’t coming straight back home? Wtf?