But I did. And if someone wants sexual services from me, assassinate Peter Thiel, and I will be right back on it.
is this a real thing? like…do people really get so sexually charged they reach out to strangers for sex?
just jerk off into the toilet like a normal person and go about your day.
I saw the thumbnail and was about to comment “justice for violet08” but then I opened the post and it was you
Still though. Justice for violet08
Goddamnit, this comment thread is gonna make me work. Op, if anyone starts harassing you, don’t be shy, send me reports. I ain’t playing this shit.
Lol do you need your bonking stick?
Hi, I upvoted your post, so when’s the wedding? 😏
Step back. I’ve upvoted quite a few of Violet’s posts therefore we are obviously going to meet later, do The Sex ™, then go out for cheese sandwiches!!!
How the fuck did he get grilled cheese in here‽
Idk I took a glance at your posts and I don’t know if I would call them hypersexual, I would consider that like what u/sexmeat did. I think horny humor is just part of Gen Zs vernacular
Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.
Lemmy is great but requires some heavy pruning. I reccomend making frequent use of the block button
Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.
You could almost say /c/femcelmemes is, uhhh, leaking, in a way.
👉👈
Lemmy also has a misogyny problem, despite being progressive on most issues. Besides my own experience, I’ve seen this a lot in women/feminism-related threads.
Sometimes I feel like Lemmy is worse than reddit in this regard. The amount of blatant misogony I see is unreal. Memes, posts, comments, it’s everywhere, often not-so-subtly too.
I think society at large has a misogyny-as-default problem unfortunately. I guess most of us have been raised with biases we’re not really aware of until we reach a certain level of self-reflection.
Yeah, natural selection really made sure men are as horny as possible didn’t it? Fortunately there are ways to learn how to mitigate it somewhat by being more self reflective and such.
Fortunately there are ways to learn how to mitigate it somewhat by
Most men aren’t smart enough or wealthy enough to become surgeons, but that’s an interesting idea.
Not just girls either. One dude-lookin person has a feminine look and their inbox fills with requests for that stuff… and dick picks
I enjoy the posts, I’ve just always assumed this is another user doing a bit though — which is fine
All the better if there is a real person behind this, it gives me some hope for the younger generation, and I hope nothing you encounter here makes you regret sharing who you are and what you’re going through.
But you’re in a community that is skewing older and more early-internet, and thus most of us find it prudent to pretty much assume every identity in a community like this is partially or largely fake. I am, for example, a 4 year old Australian Shepherd in real life and my human has no clue.
Real or fake, I enjoy my game of “Stamets or Violet” every time I see a horny or uncouth post.
On the internet everyone knows you’re a dog if you’re from pawb.social at least.
Looks concerningly regardless of instance
I, for one, still believe Stamets and Violet are the same person. Have you ever seen them in the same room together at the same time?? Checkmate!
This is like the second or third time I’ve seen this Stamets person mentioned, as if everyone knows who they are, but I’m clueless. I figure I’d better ask now before it gets even more awkward - who is Stamets and what’s their deal?
https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/u/Stamets
Idk what his deal is officially, just that if I find a meme especially relatable on a neurospicy level, it’s him 9/10 times. And that he kinda likes Star Trek.
I’ve responded to and had Stamets comment on some of my posts. Don’t know anything about Violet
Some people don’t know how to deal with an overtly sexual woman. It throws them for a loop. To some people, only men are allowed to be horny. If you’re a horny woman you must be a slut who can’t control their emotions and that’s bad.
I think it’s important for some men to realize women are people, too. I know that sounds silly to say out loud but I really think some guys think women are these completely different creatures from themselves. We’re all human and, gasp, some like to talk and joke about sex. The horror!
See that makes a lot of sense, but you are forgetting something vital. This is the internet, so everyone is a guy. Especially the horny women. Therefore, only men can be horny. Checkmate, wanktheiests.
Considering it was only about 100 years ago that science decided that women could orgasm and weren’t just faking it to make their husbands happy…yes, the idea that a woman can be horny and is a normal human being is a shocking revelation to some (many?).
who can’t control their emotions
Ironic how men accuse horny women of being unable to control their emotions when it’s mostly horny men being unable to control their emotions that’s actually problematic (causing misogyny and rape)
Many men tend to be actually too horny, they objectify women and tend to have misogynistic and patriarchal expectations.
tbf this board is 99.8% male and like 1/3rd autistic at that and there’s almost no posts in Lemmy Shitpost talking about how they love showing off their dicks, fucking women, being horny, jerking off etc because these guys are nerds not frat boys
Happy to be proven wrong
That’s not to say the content isn’t welcome, if it wasn’t it’d be downvoted (ask me how I know)
It’s less that I mind or care, it’s more that straight horny content wasn’t really a thing before. Sure, people would joke around, but actual horny-posting was limited to places you had to actively seek out (like lemmynsfw). If people don’t want to draw attention to what they say, be it good or bad, they shouldn’t say things that stick out 🤷
I think there was some of that in nsfw. I think the biggest instance died, though.
Yeah. But then to see it, you would have actually made the conscious choice to go to lemmynsfw, no?
The posts are still shown on the main feed (depending on instance) just buried by everything else. Scroll long enough and you’ll see it
Ah OK. I’m on my own instance. So I don’t have any of those communities here. So in my case I won’t.
I do hate the double standard that it’s totally fine for men to joke and talk about sex, but when a woman does it, she must be dirty in some way. I get that biologically, women have had to be more choosy with partners because for a long time, the best protection was zero insertion, or the chances of ending up with a child you didn’t want were nonzero. Things are different now. We have the pill. We have emergency contraceptives. Some of us even have access to abortions.
Sex isn’t dirty. It’s normal and natural to want it. It’s normal to have a hard time getting it. It’s normal to be frustrated by the dating field and navigating relationships. It’s normal to feel incredibly rewarded when you do get it. And it’s normal to want to blow off steam by talking to people closest to you about your successes and failures in life. And a big part of being human is one’s own sexual exploits.
One of my closest friends is a woman about 13 years older than me (I’m 33; she’s 46), and she’s going through menopause right now. And she’ll start talking about the difficulty it’s bringing her, and she’ll tell me, “You don’t wanna hear about all this,” or, “I know you don’t care about this.” And the truth is that I do not nor could I ever understand what she’s going through, but as a friend, I can listen to her complain about it and give her the space to vent. Even if I’ll never get it, I can just be a voice in the room to pull out some great hits like:
- “Jeeeesus, I’m so sorry,”
- “Yikes, that sucks,” or
- "Haha, Fuck. That."
As a man, I don’t always have follow up questions or advice to offer someone going through issues unique to women. But people aren’t always looking for advice. Sometimes, it’s just nice to have the space to blow off steam with a safe person.
And that’s not dirty. It’s something we all do.
Curious that this is your perception, while i myself have noticed a sort of inverse trend in that regard.
Especially around these parts it is heavily frowned upon making any kind of horny or sexual comment as a dude about a woman. A surefire way to get schooled on what a misogynist objectifying dick you are (excluding literal porn community comment section of course).
Other horny comments are much less controversial, women on men, men on men, women on women. Things you might find in the average (gay) porn comment section get upvoted on lemmy on a regular basis, im sure it’s totally ironic.
So my personal “analysis” of recent ish lemmy online discourse would be that heterosexual men on lemmy avoid being publicly horny because of the expected blowback. That or they make an alt account.
Preeeeach
Lol. I am liking your posts 'cause you provide much needed whiplash among dominantly politic content, so thanks xD
I upvote almost everything
I see upvote as “this is a good Lemmy post/comment” and downvote as “this is a bad Lemmy post/comment”. Most of what I see is good. Bad things are things such as misinformation, bad faith stuff / trolling, bad (in my opinion) takes, people being wrong/stupid about stuff, irrelevant things, etc. When I do not vote it’s for one of 3 reasons: either I don’t understand what it is saying, it makes a reference I don’t get, or I can’t determine whether it’s good or bad (usually because it’s unclear).
edit: making this comment got me wondering about how other people judge posts/comments and vote, so I made a post on Ask Lemmy: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/65352983
How many creepy dms do you get per week?
All of them
