• Agent641@lemmy.world
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    7 hours ago

    As someone who often comes on too strong in the whole friendship thing I recently met someone who is that x10 and I understand how jarring it can be to have a friend who is rather extra.

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    12 hours ago

    Imagine caring if someone texts you back immediately. Real maturity is recognizing that most adults have other things going on and can’t/won’t be glued to their phone all day long.

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      10 hours ago

      I read the meaning as someone thinking it weird to text back immediately. That was the offense. As if you should play it cool and wait to respond.

      I personally respond quickly if I’m holding my phone and the message comes in, usually.

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          10 hours ago

          Them, 13 Aug: Morning!

          You, 14 Aug: Morning! How are you?
          Them, 14 Aug: great since I get to talk to you 🙂. How are you?

          You, 15 Aug: Great for the same reason 🙂. Want to have dinner?
          Them, 15 Aug: love to, where and when?
          Them, 15 Aug: Where are we having dinner?
          Them, 15 Aug: missed 7 calls from Them.
          Them 15 Aug: I’m hungry, are you ok?
          Them, 15 Aug: I hope you’re ok, call me when you see this, no matter the time, I just need to know you’re ok

          You, 16 Aug: Morning, sorry, 24 hour rule. Dinner tonight?

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        9 hours ago

        That’s dexter so it reads to me like anyone responding instantly is a serial killer.

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      9 hours ago

      Also, I’m happy to text asap if we’re planning something. If you’re shooting me texts to small talk, I’m happy to chat, but you have to understand that I’ll probably only start chatting when I’m really free if it’s not important.

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        9 hours ago

        My comment mostly has to do with the ‘mature’ part, implying that the mature thing to do is to text someone back immediately. And conversely, not texting back immediately is immature.

        That said, reading comprehension is not always my strong suit, so fair play. Me brain no work so good.

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      10 hours ago

      Yeah but like instantly instantly is weird. You kind of expect there to be a period where they free their hands, then check the message, then weigh up whether it warrants a conversation right now, then think what to say, then type it. Could take 30 seconds, could take 3 hours if they’re fully busy and you get sidelined.

      A reaponse in 2 seconds from cold open always sets me off balance.

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        10 hours ago

        You’re thinking too much. Instant responses are not weird. Am I supposed to just wait for a bit so that youre wheels don’t start turning in the most un charitable direction.

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          9 hours ago

          Nobody owes anybody anything man do what you want. Its still weird though. Like when you knock a door and they answer it immediately because they were stood right there. You dont expect it.

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            8 hours ago

            I agree that would be weird. Difference is a person is holding their phone throughout the day. Its not a good comparison cause the behavior of standing by the front door waiting for it to knock is unusual behavior.

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        I mean, personally it’s because I don’t get a lot of messages in the first place, and most of the time I’m just lost in my thoughts and not actively busy so it’s a nice change of pace. Now, even I’ll admit 2 seconds is a little short, but I’m often ready with a response within 10

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    11 hours ago

    Educate me please, is this a real thing? Do people delay responses to act cool? In my day, extended chat conversations were a thing and kinda required immediate responses. Does nobody do that anymore?

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      Exactly what I was thinking. It’s not that you don’t get “immediate” feedback when somebody texts you… either by a sound or otherwise. Why wouldn’t you respond to that if you have the time? Although I get it when somebody sends you a thousand messages (or voice ones) in a row. Then I also need a time out.

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      I delay texts both reading and responding to not be a slave to my phone or to your whims. I don’t owe you immediate gratification. Texts are really disruptive. About 40% of the time that thing you asked me that I didn’t respond to you about took care of itself or you figured it out yourself and are maybe better for it.

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          Sure. Treat them the same way. If you don’t VM it’s probably not important enough for me to call back. I’ll Call you back when I’m driving, its a great time to talk. Also, you’re not going to call me about as dumb as a thing as you are going to txt me. The threshold to interact this way is much higher, it’s a natural BS screen.

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      10 hours ago

      Probably as long as Snapchat has existed. Especially since they were the first to show your little avatar peaking over the keyboard if you were in the chat at the same time.

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        Especially since they were the first to show your little avatar peaking over the keyboard if you were in the chat at the same time.

        Snapchat was absolutely not the first to add a “typing now” indicator

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          No no no. The first to add the avatar that makes you look like a weirdo for just being in the same chat but not saying anything.

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      Youre old enough that chats didnt have a history, and if they waited long enough, you had to open a different message entirely to remember what you sent them!

      Ah the times

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      10 hours ago

      Yeah i bet they’re on their phone allll the time just waiting for a reply.

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              It’s Will Forte in the role of Phil Tandy Miller in the tv-series The Last Man on Earth, in which he uses the “I hardly knew her” joke intensively throughout the series.

              At first it’s corny because it’s a poor joke, but then he keeps doing it, so it becomes annoying, but then he keeps doing it, so it becomes funny, but then he keeps doing it, so it becomes annoying again.