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People with mad game don’t need to front it.
I came from a big family like that. My mother had 13 children and 11 of us survived long enough to get married and start our own families. Lost one sister to fibroids and another to gang violence.
Please stop. The planet is overcrowded as it is.
To be fair, I don’t think grandma pumped out 252 children because she enjoyed the sex.
My grandmother had her first child out of wedlock at the age of 14, her second child (my mom) out of wedlock with a different father at the age of 16, and her third child out of wedlock with yet another different father at the age of 17. And this was all in the 1930s. I strongly suspect grandma really enjoyed the sex – otherwise, why go through all the social approbation and abandonment by her family that went along with it?
Yea she definitely loved that D.
Nobody asks to get kicked in the nuts twice do they?
Can’t have been that bad.
How many of those old kids were acting as parents because the folks were too busy fucking?
The two oldest, seated in front, are tending two newborn babies. Presumably the parents are off somewhere else, fucking.
They didn’t think about it they just did it.
That’s like 2 decades of pushing out kids.
That’s what happens when a wife is not allowed to say no and birth control doesn’t exist. Could also represent having sex only 15 times over 16 years and getting pregnant every time. My grandmother swore all my grandfather needed to do was look at her and she was pregnant yet again.
Being fair to women back then, most of them didn’t know how sex and babies worked, lacked any sort of formal education besides knowing how to read and write, and were raised that disagreeing with your husband or saying no to him in the bedroom was how to wind up an old spinster, the worst fate for any woman.
“Honey, if I knew what was causing it, I would never have had more than two.”
-My great grandma, mother of 12
I mean, if you can’t figure out a pattern after birth 3… You might be mentally underdeveloped.
They legitimately didn’t understand that sex resulted in pregnancy?
Yeah, that was only discovered in the 1990s.
That seems unlikely to be true unless they were raised very religious and not in any proximity to farm animals or pets.
Religious, yes. But very much on a farm.
So she knew if the farm animals had sex they’d become pregnant?
She lived on the farm, but she didn’t work it; that’s what the male children were for. Her “place” was in the house.
She told me she would ask sometimes, but all anybody would ever tell her was some variation of, “Birds fly. Fish swim. Women have babies. That’s just what they do/That’s just the way it is.”
She finally found out from her doctor while discussing her hysterectomy, but only after confirming her husband was already dead.
Not until after menopause. She was born in the rural US American south some time in the 1920s (the date is known, I just forget). She grew up during the great depression, never went to school, only knew what she learned from her mother, who lived the same way, and only socialized with other women at church, who also lived and grew up the same way. She could read and count well enough to follow a recipe and write enough to leave her husband a note, but that was about it. She was raised to believe that if she said no to her husband in the bedroom, he would divorce her, word would spread around town that she wasn’t a “good woman” and she would end up an old spinster, the worst thing a woman could possibly be.
I love being childless.
I love children … in 15 minute doses. That’s why being a childless school bus driver is so great.
*childfree!
Definitely not free, little fuckers are expensive AF :D
A 20 year credit card you can never pay off.
I had the fortunate experience of growing up with great-grandparents living, as well as some of their siblings. I got to hear first-hand experiences from 3 generations of women (mother, grandmothers, and two great-grandmothers plus various aunts sprinkled in). It was invaluable for me. Knowing their life stories and the truth of what they endured has helped me navigate life in so many ways.
It also has been incredible armor against the flood of misplaced nostalgia and outright manipulation of history that seems so prevelant. My great-grandmother was born in 1908 and died in 2002. She left her abusive husband in the 1930s and raised her kids as a single mom in a time when it was exponentially more difficult to do so. Glad she got out when she did with 4 instead of 14…
When I hear of the women in the victorian times who worked as sex workers to get by, got hacked into pieces by Jack the Ripper and no one batted an eye when they heard a woman screaming as that’s just what London was like at the time…
… I know there’s a lot of unwritten history that wildly deviates from the conservative mindset, and always has.
If you’re interested, I highly recommend “The Five: The Untold Lives of the Women Killed by Jack the Ripper” by Hallie Rubenhold!
I don’t think most women wanted to be pregnant back to back like that then.
My grandmother had 16 children. It destroyed her.
Yeah definitely the elephant in the room when this comes up. Women didn’t have a choice and they were impregnated over and over even if it killed them.
You always have a choice. I see a lot of women applauding for feminism… But I never see them at the rally’s.
Take some responsibility. If you’re getting married and constantly plowed because you can’t think for yourself, that’s on you.
Having said that, humans are going to be human, so it’s nothing particularlt unnatural.
I’m a tenth child and my mom did it of her own volition. It was like being a dog that nobody wanted to take care of.
Your mom is a POS
I’m sorry you were forced to be in that position.
My dad was number 14. He was once asked for advice by a man who had several children already and wanted more. My dad’s advice?
“Stop.”
My dad went on to explain that this guy was already neglecting his current children and that it was abuse to continue. Because there simply isn’t enough time and resources available.
My oldest sister wanted to do the same. My brother in law got a vasectomy in secret after the 7th. Everything your dad said is exactly true.
Edit: I don’t mean to imply that some women aren’t forced into the position of having more kids than they want. But usually having a lot of kids requires two mentally unwell religious fundamentalists.
Oh you’re totally right that there’s people who willingly do this as well! Thankfully we have more choices when it comes to how many children we want these days.
tell that to any woman in the use asking to be sterilized, crazy the hoops you have to jump through, our outlook is so ass backwards
and I imagine in a controlling relationship, birth control would be hard to hide
tell that to any woman in the use asking to be sterilized, crazy the hoops you have to jump through
That’s entirely about finding the right doctor. I’ve known men who were refused a vasectomy because “you’ll want kids later and it isn’t always reversible” and were asked to get a consent form signed by their wife. Both are things that are common “hoops” women go through when trying to get a conservative doctor to do a hysterectomy or tubal ligation.
My wife actually brought me with her to the doctor’s appointment where she asked for her hysterectomy “just in case” and the doctor asked why she brought me with her and I kind of sheepishly answered “moral support.” She had seen every other gyno in the area and had problems with all of them, ranging from ignoring her issues to doing a uterine biopsy using a kevorkian punch (look it up, it’s designed to be inserted, and then essentially a metal claw on the business end gouges out a piece of tissue to sample) with no pain relief of any kind on the grounds that “it’s less painful than childbirth”. Most of them were women (including the one that did the uterine biopsy), the one who did her hysterectomy was one of the only men.
Ya I had an exgf who had a kid with pretty severe ms. The poor little dude barely made his 9th birthday. Apparently she carries the gene, I’m not sure the exact details. But the risk that any other children she had would be afflicted was too high. She had to go to 6 Drs before she found one that would tie her tubes. Absolutely ridiculous
yep pretty much this
It is fucked how much easier it is to get a vasectomy than a tubal litigation.
yep the doc wanted my permission for her op like wtf
Yeah it’s still an issue now, but there are more options than back then.
It’s very hard to hide birth control and it can be tampered with easily. I’ve heard of men microwaving their partner’s birth control pills, poking holes in condoms, even forcing their partner to remove IUDs.
:( that’s crazy
Maybe it’s just cuz I’ve got a neurospicy bean who is AuDHD and PDA af, but I do not understand how people can have more than a couple kids. Hell, my wife is the oldest of 5 and it’s crazy how much abuse I now see they all endured (both neglect and actual SA abuse of the youngest ones that wasn’t brought to light until a few years ago).
often it’s just the lack of contraception and/or appropriate education.
No, some people get a thrill out of the power of making more people, of having a huge family, even if they don’t take good care of them.
I personally don’t get it. But I have a friend who is a really incompetent person - when we hang out, we have to make extra sure she doesn’t do dangerous things like she is a child. She is a sweet person, but very oblivious in a way that is hard to put a pin on. She is married, and her husband takes care of her and has always seemed to kind of like the responsibility. To each their own. But they now have 2 kids and he is completely overwhelmed. But she wants more and keeps talking about trying to talk him into it or ‘oops’ getting pregnant again in a few years. We all yell at her when she says stuff like that.
It is the perfect flip-flop of the usual gender roles - where Dad has all the responsibility and doesn’t want more, and Mom just sees it as some kind of power trip about her self image and is oblivious or just doesn’t care that it would break her partner.
There are certainly people who choose to do this. But in the time period pictured, it is more likely that this woman had no other choice.
Oh absolutely. Women were basically property then and no one had any concept of ‘spousal rape’.
I was more addressing the mentality when people do it now - that it shouldn’t be assumed to be ignorance about birth control
Right? I’ve got one kid and I’ve got my hands full! I can’t imagine having more kids than I wanted because of lack of access to contraception. Sounds like a nightmare.
You see, it’s simple – once you’ve been going for 5 or 6 years, you make the older children take care of the younger ones. Parentification is fun and saves you lots of work!
My mother wanted two, got two at once, went “DONE NOW” and it was for the best.
Bro I’ve got my hands full with two cats.
The folks who have large numbers of kids typically start handing off childcare duties to the older ones as soon as they’re physically capable of doing those tasks. Especially the girls - usually these sorts of families don’t want boys doing child care unless there are no girls, but the boys start getting used for labor around the same age.
Yeah, I grew up catholic and that’s how the big families I knew were. You had kids who were largely raised by their big sisters raising the younger siblings… And no, they weren’t ok, they ranged from mad about it to excited to be the mom in such a dynamic
My eldest aunts ended up being pregnant the same time my grandmother was often.
There’s a lot of resentment and grudges in my family tree.
Sounds like there might be more grudges than branches.
My grandparents had 8 children. 7 came after everyone moved out and 8 came because they didn’t want 7 to be lonely.
Now double it for this woman and my grandmother. It’s insane.
Before modern medicine, often people would have a ton of kids because they would frequently die.
Before modern medicine, often people would have a ton of kids because they would frequently die.
Before modern medicine, birth control and abortions were much harder to come by, too.
Also, women didn’t really get much of a say in the matter.
God forbid you point that out though, there’s a bunch of people who think this was all consensual.
This is a really important factor here that it wasn’t exactly “Grandma’s” choosing (not to make the meme unfunny but…) Yeah, more often than not it was “Grandpa” with no choice in the matter.
It’s ok to not laugh at a meme like this.
Rather than attributing this to the lack of modern medicine, I would attribute this to the lack of television and the internet. 🤣
100%
What else if there to but fuck?
They needed workers. Not pictured is the shallow grave out back for the 4 that got the rickets
And the “orphan train” already passed by, so it’s not pictured either. Or the “for sale” signs when the children became too many. But the chimney sweep kids are “living it up”, as they’re learning an important trade!
But the chimney sweep kids are “living it up”, as they’re learning an important trade!
The cancers those chimney sweep kids got were horrific. Last Podcast on the Left recently did a deep dive into chimney sweeps and it was eye-opening. Highly recommend listening if you’re into that kind of thing.
I was just recommending a podcast episode lol
Chim, chimney
Chim, chimney
Chim, chim, cher-ee
A sweep is full of cancer
As full of cancer as you can be.
if you’re into that kind of thing
Chimney sweeps, podcasts, cancer, or open eyes?
Learning more about fucked up things lol
Sorry, sorry… that was sarcasm. It was mostly slavery of orphans, guised as trade-skills. As well as the cancers, they also had hellish injury/death, because ya know… 7 year olds are climbing chimneys
“Put their feet to the fire”… sometimes kids were too afraid to keep climbing, so they lit a fire under them. Sometimes, they became too grown and got stuck in the chimney, possibly dying. Hellish
I wasn’t correcting you, I just have ADHD and saw your line about chimney sweeps which reminded me of that podcast episode so I recommended it hahaha
I’m sorry I didn’t make it clear that I was just conversing with you.
Lmao, well damn I’m sorry again! That makes more sense, I misinterpreted cause I is a little dumb. I’ll have to check it out because I am in fact, into those kinda things! Thank you
No problem :)
Tone can be so hard to convey on text and then further complicated with neurodivergence haha
Do you have a link to the podcast “the Left” or related doesn’t show clear results, thanks.
Oh yes! The show is called “The Last Podcast on the Left” and here’s a link to their site.
Ah material to drift off to sleep on to. 😄 - Some of them at least. Will give it a go!
I don’t listen to much true crime anymore, but these guys stole my heart haha
It’s a very suspicious ratio of pants to dresses
Young boys and girls used to wear the same outfits and they were passed down. Look closely at the photo.
Oh wow, you dug a grave? Look at mister “thinks he’s better than everybody else because he owns enough land to bury people”. Why don’t you just tie em up in a sack and toss em in the river like the rest of us?
My dad is 70 and he was the youngest of 14 kids…
