• 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 @pawb.social
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    1 day ago

    I would dress like a kid if they made the cool kids designs in large adult sizes. They have all the best shit. The mens section is a sea of drab, lifeless bullshit. How come we don’t get head-to-toe Spongebob outfits? It’s not fair.

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      I mean, SpongeBob’s outfit is khaki shorts, a black belt, high white socks, a white short sleeve button down, and a tie. The men’s section absolutely has all of that.

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          46 minutes ago

          Ah. There are few things I want to wear less than clothes with graphics on them. Gimme plain, practical clothes in solid colors all day every day. The duality of neurospicy man I suppose.

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      I’m the exact opposite. Always have been. Everyone has always tried to get me to, “Find my style,” bitch please! My style is nice and boring no design heather gray, solid black, forest green and gray t-shirts with a pocket, pain black relaxed fit wrangler jeans or cargo shorts that go below the knee for biking or to longer events that I don’t want to feel the wind on my knees or exposed in.

      Also, when you bike as a dude when you wear something like 6" to 8" inseam for shorts, you’re gonna either be wearing something skin tight where your balls are up against the shorts and I’ve always wondered if there’s a sports cup at play or feel like you’re wearing boxers. Maybe that’s just me. 10" inseam is the shortest I can go and yeah I know I have autism but I can’t relax with anything shorter.

      Then there’s the whole crew vs quarter cut for men and if you wear ankle cut as a dude in the summer you have a sick obsession with enjoying blisters. Anytime really, like fuckin’ shit ankle cut socks are SHIT!!! Quarter Cut Socks especially dickies are the fucking best!!! If you wear crew cut socks in the summer with shorts you piss me off because I get the comfort at home but out in public, it looks so fuckin’ stupid.

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        22 hours ago

        I’ve worn 5" inseam running shorts for mountain biking sometimes. It’s not so bad bus sometimes you bounce your knee/thigh off the top tube and that can leave a bruise. I usually wear 7" inseam tho.

        There are some cycling bibs that have better ball comfort, they will excentuate your package.

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          if a cycling bib doesnt have good ball comfort, it’s not one you should wear tbh.

          Unless you’re into that sort of thing.

          Sidenote, come to scotland, the land of it being socially acceptable for men to wear whatever they want, including kilts, dresses and cones as hats.

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      21 hours ago

      I wear colorful men’s clothes. Fun designs on things like short sleeve button shirts in the summer (Hawaiian shirts and similar things), fun sweaters in the winter.

      Even my office wear usually has a splash of personality, with the amount of subtlety appropriate for the setting: suits or jackets with interesting textures and weave patterns, neckties with interesting designs, a bright color on my socks. Some settings allow for a bit more expression, and other choices can be more adventurous if you prefer, including intentionally contrasting choices in glasses, watches, shoes, other accessories. Even a pair of headphones can be a fashion accessory, although it is true that women seem to be able to pull that off better.

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    1 day ago

    Question: what is a less autism summer outfit for a guy?

    Inb4 “You can also wear a summer dress” - no. I don’t want to.

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        What, a shirt and khaki shorts? Or are the beautiful blond curls part of the outfit?

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            That’s not true. You don’t need to mimic the model you can buy the clothes, try them on and see if you like them on you. If you don’t send them back. The best pair of shorts I have is modelled by an Asian dude and he’s like an ordinary looking individual and then those pants are the same as I have and they’re modelled by that guy.

            Skin tone, height and body type is what you should be focusing on for a comparison. Trying to mimic a model, will always leave you feeling discouraged. Also if you know what already looks good on you, roll with that and do variations and shit. That’s a style right there. I can do plain and boring but I can wear a button up and a slim cut pair of jeans with a regualr nice shirt.

            I can wear anythig that I think looks good on me. That’s not confidence (or autism), it’s just I have a renewed sense of fuck it all in life and why the fuck should I care what anyone thinks about how I look? If it looks good to me, feels good to me and fits well, ☝🏻 while also not making people around me uncomfortable, then I’m gonna wear it. And you can do the same homie.

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              Oh I like the way I dress. I make an effort to look my best but Im saying that they use models to make the clothes as appealing as they can. It was mostly a self-depricating joke.

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      Browse through the summer look book of a designer you like. Ralph Lauren, or maybe Drakes are pretty inoffensive and safe bets for a classic look. Both are expensive brands, but you’re only buying inspiration anyway.

      My own personal advice, for what it’s worth. Not inclusive of all social situations, but…

      If they’re long pants, they’re linen. If they’re short pants, shorter inseams look a little more fashionable than knee length cargo shorts.

      If they’re long sleeves, they’re linen. If they’re short sleeves, then something that has a collar.

      Shoes are of the boat variety, or sandals.

      My uncle says men should never show their bare legs or feet in public, though you should probably decide that for yourself.

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        Bold of you to assume I’ve heard of any designer or even know what a summer look book is supposed to be (I guess the name is quite self explanatory).

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      My mild take is that there’s nothing wrong with that outfit.

      You could probably do a non-tshirt top, like a breezy short sleeve button down or more relaxed top. Maybe non khaki colored shorts, but it’s fine as is.

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      No, its that person who can’t read social signs or body language at all… :)

      I think it’s charming though. Everyone here has a right to be here and a right to be treated well by others. But that also means to tell autistic people how not to make others uncomfortable, if they don’t know how.

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      But men in pretty frocks look good … everyone should wear them.

      Plus, they’re better than shorts and t-shirt for keeping cool :-)

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    I look at women and they’re so well dressed in so many different and interesting styles. When i look at men they are dressed very plain usually “badly dressed” the ones the are well dressed rarely have an interesting style.

    I am thinking more about clothes these days because I want a dress style that i find interesting and I struggle to find the mens equivalent what I see in womens clothing.

    Ive never gone to a clothing store and seen wizard robes or anything cool.

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      No one stopping you from wearing a dress

      Anyway

      Never seen a cape

      Can we normalize capes again?, like cmon! This is so cool:

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        I live where we have 3 seasons of summer and about 1.5 months of hoodie weather. There was a freeze and actual snow! spouse took a hoodie, other ones were dirty. I took my wool blanket, folded it in half, and used 3 safety pins to hold it in my shoulders. It looked like this

        But in dark gray with sweater, jeans, and my tan work boots. I felt damn cool and people were checking me out. Live your dreams!

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      It’s an interesting phenomenon, because throughout most of human history it was men who wore (if they could) flamboyant outfits, while women tended to be more demurely dressed. Sexually dimorphic species (ducks, peacocks, etc.) are often similar, with males having vibrant colours. What changed, and why? I’m sure some sociologist has thought of an answer.

      Signed, plainly dressed man.

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        I think the reason is as simple as flamboyant outfits being easily available.

        Two hundred years ago, a flamboyant outfit indicated you did minimum manual work. As that’d destroy the drip, and it was also quite expensive. While commoners would wear often brown/grey work outfits.

        It’s the same reasons for why it used to be in to be white/pale, as that indicated you’d stay inside all day rather than working the fields. Now it’s in to be tan, as that indicates you’re able to sunbath rather than work in an office all day long

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          I think there’s also a factor of WW1 and 2, even well into the depression it wasn’t too uncommon for men to wear somewhat colorful clothes but after WW2 it seems that the only folks using color were pimps and hippies. From there it was simply a matter of industrial clothing not really giving folks an option.

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      Wisdom Kaye is a male model and he does great videos exploring a more diverse perspective on men’s fashion. It may not be exactly what I looking for, but it’s definitely a fresh new perspective compared to what I see in day to day male fashion.

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        Would any of his outfits work on the orc body-type? Cuz that’s more or less what I’m working with

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          I’m not a fashionista or anything, but I think it’s more about finding your style and finding your fit within your style. Feeling good about your look is more important than it working for you in my opinion. The easiest upgrade with the most impact is generally tshirt to some other kind of top, but his looks are often a little more involved than top+bottom. He does have the traditional model aesthetic of tall and thin, but I think his tips and general style could be incorporated by anyone.

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        Sure but like he said there’s the whole availability aspect. You go to a kohls, or a Walmart, goodwill even, you’ll see a load of different styles for women. Men get t shirts, shorts, and maybe a jacket

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          I get a decent chunk of clothes in the women’s section: shorts, pants, sweaters … They have better shaping, though it takes some searching for good fottong stuff. But also, a french tuck can really add life to a formless men’s sweater or shirt.

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          I’m not suggesting men and women have equal access to equivalent style variety, but it seems like they are saying in part that men don’t have “interesting style” options. I recommended watching his stuff because he often wears skirts or dresses or womenswear cuts to get a shape less common in menswear that the commenter might like and be able to mimic. He does whole videos of thrifted fits too. Also lots of general styling tips for men to spice up an otherwise plain look.

          I’m not disagreeing with him, just trying to help with the resources I know of. Not really sure what your comment is getting at because I didn’t suggest anything other than a possible point of influence that it seems like you aren’t familiar with.

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    I look good.

    I mean, I’m not like fashionable or anything, but I’m certainly not goofy.

    Then why did I reply? - is a question I will be pondering thoughtfully and humbly for a bit.