• samus12345@sh.itjust.works
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    19 minutes ago

    Dodged a bullet, etc., but still, why? What’s the thinking here as to why you should wait to start eating the bread?

  • CoffeeSoldier@sh.itjust.works
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    2 hours ago

    I thought it was five seconds. Five minutes maybe for the last roll if you’ve had two or three already. I can’t stand it when everyone is so damn polite not wanting to take the last one of a shared food item to the point of allowing it to go to waste. Give it a fair pause but then take that last roll or cookie or whatever if you want it.

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      56 minutes ago

      I give everyone an easy out in that situation, because the people I eat with just look at me by default to take the last one. It did take a while of me saying, “Well if no one else wants it, I’ll take it,” to get to that point.

  • EtherWhack@lemmy.world
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    2 hours ago

    The general thing to do is to peruse the menu to find what you want first to get that out of the way as the wait staff can be pretty quick when you first sit down. If the bread won’t distract you during, go for it. You just really want to get your order in when they come by as it could turn into a while before they come back.

    They were probably taught something like that, but it became so corrupted that the entire reasoning was lost, leaving only an arbitrary wait time.

  • kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world
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    6 hours ago

    “Everybody knows […]” means my parent(s) had some weird or strict rules and life lessons that I had hounded into me which I internalized into my very being and never questioned, and now I have unspoken and often unrealistic expectations of people and the world that no one has absolutely any reason to know about.

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    5 hours ago

    Ok serious question. I live in a country where they don’t serve you free bread.

    What do you do if you eat all the delicious bread then you aren’t hungry anymore?

    I had this real life scenario happen when I was in Canada and we felt obligated to order mains even though we didn’t want them.

    Is it socially acceptable to pay for your drinks and leave?

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      2 hours ago

      This happened when I went to America many moons ago, not with bread but regular food.

      We went to this restaurant and you order you main like steak and fries. Then you get a buffet starter and I swear to god it had any food you can imagine. Suffice to say I ate so much I couldn’t even start my main when it came.

      I’d never seen such large humans as when I went to the USA. Breakfast was similar to with all you can eat.

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        4 hours ago

        Hmm yeah that’s what we figured. We were on holiday, we couldn’t take food home to eat later so just forced the food down then didn’t eat again for 24 hours 😆

      • rbos@lemmy.ca
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        4 hours ago

        Yeah, we go to Spaghetti Factory (Canada) and fill up on bread and just tip the main course directly into leftovers containers sometimes.

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        6 hours ago

        I remember meeting someone in high school that was confused that everyone was eating and drinking in the same meal. Because in their house and extremely limited world view, you EAT. Then you leave the table and go DRINK.

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        5 hours ago

        Ehh … It’s more likely etiquette to not descend on the rolls like a starving Labrador retriever. Much of manners is about self restraint and making oneself ‘small’. The idea is that you wait a minute or two, so it’s not like being at the Chinese food buffet when a fresh load of sweet and sour pork comes out. Everyone piling in for the rolls is undignified. It’s related to the idea that even if you really want that last roll, you ask if anyone else would like it before snatching it for yourself.

        … but judging someone for grabbing one when they come out? Pretty prissy.

      • shutz@lemmy.ca
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        5 hours ago

        I think you’re right. I guess they had parents who were big on setting rules, but not on justifying them.

        I’m pretty sure my parents throttled my bread intake at restaurants when I was very young for the reason you state, but they accompanied their directive with a “don’t fill up before you get your main course” justification. So I didn’t assimilate it as a rule of etiquette, and instead understood the underlying logic.