• fonix232@fedia.io
    56·
    2 days ago

    Because we live in a capitalist world, and while you work hard, the fruit of your work goes to a capitalist pig.

    For example you work hard for all the sex you want to have, and I’m having it with your mum every night. And as this is a zero sum game that leaves you sexless and maidenless.

  • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
    22·
    1 day ago

    I used to think it was because I’m too ugly to be attractive to the women I find attractive.

    Then I discovered I don’t really even try with women I find physically attractive because it’s relatively small on my attraction plate. If I find a woman who has intellect and the ability to talk on that trait, and a desire to learn with a bit of that physical goodness, hot damn will I put the effort in.

    Worst case scenario I get rejected. Back to square one. Next one isn’t even that bad: I end up with a good friend, which is one more link to hopefully find someone who foots the bill.

    That being said having a lengthy dry spell probably isn’t healthy, but I’ve managed it so far.

    Edit: why the hell did I say this in this community?

    I need to hold off on commenting before I’m fully awake

    • fonix232@fedia.io
      11·
      1 day ago

      It’s okay to be vulnerable on the internet every now and then. Even on joke subs.

      And to address your comment… This is something a lot of men misconstrue in general. They think that most women will want the 6’4, ripped, rich/tattooed/etc. guy. Which, to be fair, is true to some women, after all, people have types and feel physical attraction primarily on physical characteristics.

      But that’s not the whole reality. Thing is, men tend to be incredibly shallow most of the time, and completely ignore what women want. This makes the dating pool too, quite shallow.

      Here’s a list that will guarantee success with ~80% of women:

      • be genuine
      • don’t be creepy
      • have basic hygiene - brush your teeth, swap underwear daily, clean your clothes regularly, don’t stink, but also don’t overuse cologne (it’s often taken as an attempt to cover body odour instead of addressing its source)
      • don’t be a creep
      • pay attention to her. Listen to what she says, actually be interested in what she’s talking about. Read some romance books, written by women, to see what kind of interaction they crave. Just don’t go too deep into booktok recommendations because those can be somewhat dark, and let me tell you, most women will NOT like you breaking into their home wearing a mask, stabbing their bed with a hunting knife then telling them to ride the handle of said knife…
      • being creepy is a no-no
      • treat her as an equal in most cases while taking moments to be chivalrous
      • basically just treat them as a human being instead of a weird puzzle that rewards you with sex if you solve it. A lot of men do this and it’s super annoying. The goal on any single date is to get to know each other and have a good time. Sex should be an afterthought.
      • Do. Not. Be. A. Creep.
      • try to be funny without it feeling forced, over the top, or too offensive.
      • I don’t know how to emphasise this any further but creepy is a big no-no. Don’t be it.
      • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
        7·
        24 hours ago

        I want to add that some people are completely unaware that they are being creepy. Others are entirely aware, and I don’t understand how they dont realize they’re gonna get got one day.

        You are a creep if:

        1. You like to get closer than you realistically should. Ask to close the distance if you were originally sitting apart, then let the other person get comfortable. If they adjust their distance, don’t get any fucking closer than that.

        2. There are a lot of things you might want to say sober, but don’t. Probably a good idea to pay attention to these things if you have liquor in your system and notice when you no longer have control over that. If you don’t notice, maybe it’s better not to drink and rethink your life.

        3. Don’t fucking grab, sniff, tickle, or seductively eye the other person. Just don’t. Grow up.

        4. Don’t go diving through their social media like you need to learn all about them before you meet. Chances are they know exactly what is public, and they intend that public information to be a different person than they really are.

        5. If you don’t know something about them, ask. If they don’t give you an answer, stop fucking asking. God. They don’t want to tell you.

        6. If it involves sex, and you’re in public, don’t talk about it. That’s creepy.

        7. If you ever receive a inconclusive answer, that’s a hint to back the fuck off that discussion.

        There’s too much to list, but those are like a bunch I’ve frequently seen.

        • Angelevo@feddit.nl
          1·
          17 hours ago

          Excellent general rules; culture provides differences.

          Take some time to consider how the other party is feeling, empathize, use your senses. If you have trouble doing so, use your imagination. Link behavioral traits to emotions. Behave accordingly. Feel it out.

          For many people, all of this comes natural. The others can learn by reading the cues and responses. It is hard work, yet valuable as it allows you to connect on a different level.

          We are complex creatures.

    • Xenny@lemmy.world
      3·
      1 day ago

      I’m not trying to brag by saying this but I’m pretty attractive and if I wanted to get laid tomorrow I’d probably have no issue. But it’s like having access to infinite candy but instead of rotting your teeth and eroding your health it rots your ego and erodes your emotions. I don’t think getting laid all the time without real human connection is healthy. So I uhh sort of don’t have sex either unless I have a real connection and it can take a while to find that. It makes it special again.

  • hansolo@lemmy.today
    13·
    2 days ago

    Dear asteroidists (asteroid believers)

    If asteroids are real then why haven’t I gotten any?

    • idealotus@lemmy.world
      7·
      2 days ago

      I am steroidist. I believe in steroids. Why are you asking for people who don’t believe in steroids? Even though I haven’t gotten any, I still believe.

    • dumbass@piefed.socialEnglish
      2·
      1 day ago

      The people who owned my cat before me had him neutered really young, so he has absolutely no urge to have sex, but my neighbours cat has fallen in love with him, so every time she goes on heat, she comes over and tries her little heart out to get his attention and he’s just oblivious AF and thinks he’s just got a a nice cool friend. It’s so sad hearing her try and I can’t tell her she’s wasting her time, I don’t speak cat.

      • xx3rawr@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        1·
        6 hours ago

        That Time I Got Reincarnated Into An Asexual Cat Harem Season 3: The Revelations Shippuden With Knuckles Z (Asia Tour Edition)

        • xx3rawr@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          1·
          6 hours ago

          I forgot to include Advance SP Deluxe Premium GT+ Gluten-free. I will hate myself for within the next 1-2 business days.

    • jali67@lemmy.zip
      4·
      1 day ago

      This meme isn’t always true though. There’s plenty of men who are terrible people from abusers to narcissists to criminals who have no trouble getting laid. It might be increasing that they are not from higher education and knowledge among women… but it’s definitely not broadly applicable to all sexists, not even close.

    • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
      51·
      10 hours ago

      A lot of people say it’s because they’re ugly or poor. I grew up redneck. There’s people with beer guts and no teeth fucking in trailers and making ugly babies. And you know what? They throw absolute bangers purely by merit of how few fucks they give. They’ll pile three of those ugly kids on a floatie in their above ground pool and dance to the world’s shittiest music while taking down a six pack each and pouring sweet baby Ray’s on grilled bologna, then end the night losing fingers to fireworks bought across state lines. They’ll have four fingers total left on both hands and they’ll still fuck. These people are letting toothless trailer trash outfuck them and acting like it’s every one else’s fault.