Sounds like you need to work on your profile and set of pics. Many years ago I logged into PoF as a woman and was stunned at how bad the other guy’s profiles were.
Write something humorous, make your post amusing, doesn’t have to be LOL funny
Don’t list anything you find unacceptable, too negative
Don’t list anything you have to have in a partner, too demanding
Post a wide variety of pics, get a couple of your very best, but get some day-to-day pics in there, looks more honest that way
Also post pics where you’re in action, engaged in an activity you like, write about activities you enjoy, show yourself doing those things
NO: Guns, dead animals, motorcycles, trucks or other vehicles you wish to show off
No pics that include other women, no matter who they are. I’d try to leave male friends out as well.
Don’t talk about being lonely, wanting to share your life with someone, nothing emotional, sounds needy, that comes later
No need to come with your life story, they’re reading your profile to see if you’re an interesting person today, not where you came from
Do what I did and sign in as the opposite sex (sorry, been assuming you’re a man looking for a woman), read their dumb profiles, don’t do those things
Once you get it down, splatter that profile across several websites. You catch more fish with multiple hooks in the water.
One final note, when you get matches, chat very briefly, ask for the date. Women out there are seriously frustrated with guys that seem to only want to talk, talk, talk. Get that date set before someone bolder asks her out!
Sorry for making so many assumptions. If this doesn’t help you, maybe someone else can get use out of it. For context, I was 50-53 and pulling so many dates the neighbors were making fun of me over all the women in and out of here. Also, I’m short and scrawny, non-rich and my vehicles are 20+ years old. :)
Some of these are definitely up to your own personal preference.
Plenty of MAGA chicks on Tinder in my area that, themselves, have pics of their guns, dead animals and trucks. I’m sure they’d love all the country bros that do the same.
But then again, I don’t think anyone on Lemmy wants to attract those people.
NO: Guns, dead animals, motorcycles, trucks or other vehicles you wish to show off
Dang it so no train pics I take it?
No pics that include other women, no matter who they are. I’d try to leave male friends out as well.
See I’ve heard the opposite advise. A non-cover photo of you with some friends including non-male friends if you have any indicates you’re not a loner and might have some idea of how to talk to other humans
will stick with never using dating apps ever again in my life, already settled on dying alone in a cabin with a dog because the app life juice is not worth the squeeze
I’m good, dating apps feel like a waste of time. If I get a partner it won’t be through a stellar profile of mine. I’m okay with not getting a partner because I’m that stubborn. I don’t have pictures of myself that are older than like 10 years. I will not take new ones. I’m okay with not getting a partner because I refuse to take selfies.
Sounds like you need to work on your profile and set of pics. Many years ago I logged into PoF as a woman and was stunned at how bad the other guy’s profiles were.
Write something humorous, make your post amusing, doesn’t have to be LOL funny
Don’t list anything you find unacceptable, too negative
Don’t list anything you have to have in a partner, too demanding
Post a wide variety of pics, get a couple of your very best, but get some day-to-day pics in there, looks more honest that way
Also post pics where you’re in action, engaged in an activity you like, write about activities you enjoy, show yourself doing those things
NO: Guns, dead animals, motorcycles, trucks or other vehicles you wish to show off
No pics that include other women, no matter who they are. I’d try to leave male friends out as well.
Don’t talk about being lonely, wanting to share your life with someone, nothing emotional, sounds needy, that comes later
No need to come with your life story, they’re reading your profile to see if you’re an interesting person today, not where you came from
Do what I did and sign in as the opposite sex (sorry, been assuming you’re a man looking for a woman), read their dumb profiles, don’t do those things
Once you get it down, splatter that profile across several websites. You catch more fish with multiple hooks in the water.
One final note, when you get matches, chat very briefly, ask for the date. Women out there are seriously frustrated with guys that seem to only want to talk, talk, talk. Get that date set before someone bolder asks her out!
Sorry for making so many assumptions. If this doesn’t help you, maybe someone else can get use out of it. For context, I was 50-53 and pulling so many dates the neighbors were making fun of me over all the women in and out of here. Also, I’m short and scrawny, non-rich and my vehicles are 20+ years old. :)
Some of these are definitely up to your own personal preference.
Plenty of MAGA chicks on Tinder in my area that, themselves, have pics of their guns, dead animals and trucks. I’m sure they’d love all the country bros that do the same.
But then again, I don’t think anyone on Lemmy wants to attract those people.
Dang it so no train pics I take it?
See I’ve heard the opposite advise. A non-cover photo of you with some friends including non-male friends if you have any indicates you’re not a loner and might have some idea of how to talk to other humans
Huh. Well. I guess I’m doing everything right then.
Maybe the photos need a lot of work. That will be challenging.
damn thats a lot of effort lol
will stick with never using dating apps ever again in my life, already settled on dying alone in a cabin with a dog because the app life juice is not worth the squeeze
It really isn’t that much effort. It’s writing a profile and posting it.
I’m good, dating apps feel like a waste of time. If I get a partner it won’t be through a stellar profile of mine. I’m okay with not getting a partner because I’m that stubborn. I don’t have pictures of myself that are older than like 10 years. I will not take new ones. I’m okay with not getting a partner because I refuse to take selfies.