• Signtist@bookwyr.meEnglish
    121·
    1 day ago

    That’s why your therapist said to try. So often people think they’re only trying if they’re succeeding. Just being at the party is a hell of a lot better for gaining social experience than being at home. You’ll fail countless times before you succeed, but it gets easier and easier the longer you do it. Trying just means not giving up, so good on you for continuing.

  • rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    511·
    2 days ago

    Just gonna throw it out there that I stopped being lonely when I started forming my union, because the whole point is to connect with coworkers and have regular meetings with other people. You get to improve your workplace and you build genuine human connection. Win-win

      • AbsolutelyClawless@piefed.socialEnglish
        4·
        1 day ago

        Kind of the same. My coworkers aren’t bad people or anything, but… I work in a male-dominated field. I’m the only woman in my office and department. IYKYK.

          • AbsolutelyClawless@piefed.socialEnglish
            4·
            1 day ago

            Been there. Another job, got constantly teased by male coworkers and had to pretend I found it funny just so they would get bored quicker.

            Mentally sending daggers in your coworkers’ direction, and hoping you find a better environment.

  • deegeese@sopuli.xyz
    30·
    2 days ago

    Don’t dive right into the deep end if your anxiety will prevent you from talking to people.

    Practice making small talk in casual settings. Maybe take up a hobby where you can meet people.

    • SomeAmateur@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      26·
      2 days ago

      I heard somewhere that an easy way to try is with cashiers or other staff. You got 30 seconds to chat and if you mess it up you’ve already got an out and can walk away. Just read the room and make sure they aren’t crazy busy of course

      • Aneb@lemmy.world
        2·
        15 hours ago

        As a cashier, we love this; but for the love of god don’t ask abt our aspirations. I’m already a cashier no need to dwell on dreams that didn’t happen.

        One customer asked me if I had vacations plans to go to France. I just started working full time to pay for college and an apartment. Its been 5 years and I still haven’t taken a vacay :'(

  • AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.netEnglish
    31·
    23 hours ago

    If you’re feeling like this, it might be that you haven’t found your people yet.

    When you’re with the right people, it still takes effort to socialise, and time to build your skills, but it’s much easier.

    The hardest part is the early bit, where you need to push yourself to go to lots of different stuff in an attempt to find your people. There is no trick or tip to make this part easier — it just sucks. I’m at a decent point in terms of social skills nowadays, but I’ve been trying to make friends after moving to a new city, and damn, this part of the process is tiring.

    I mention this because I want to emphasise that if you’re finding this difficult, that’s normal and okay. If you find yourself becoming weary after many instances like in the OP, then that’s okay and normal too. It is hard. But it gets better, if you keep at it.