If you’re feeling like this, it might be that you haven’t found your people yet.
When you’re with the right people, it still takes effort to socialise, and time to build your skills, but it’s much easier.
The hardest part is the early bit, where you need to push yourself to go to lots of different stuff in an attempt to find your people. There is no trick or tip to make this part easier — it just sucks. I’m at a decent point in terms of social skills nowadays, but I’ve been trying to make friends after moving to a new city, and damn, this part of the process is tiring.
I mention this because I want to emphasise that if you’re finding this difficult, that’s normal and okay. If you find yourself becoming weary after many instances like in the OP, then that’s okay and normal too. It is hard. But it gets better, if you keep at it.
If you’re feeling like this, it might be that you haven’t found your people yet.
When you’re with the right people, it still takes effort to socialise, and time to build your skills, but it’s much easier.
The hardest part is the early bit, where you need to push yourself to go to lots of different stuff in an attempt to find your people. There is no trick or tip to make this part easier — it just sucks. I’m at a decent point in terms of social skills nowadays, but I’ve been trying to make friends after moving to a new city, and damn, this part of the process is tiring.
I mention this because I want to emphasise that if you’re finding this difficult, that’s normal and okay. If you find yourself becoming weary after many instances like in the OP, then that’s okay and normal too. It is hard. But it gets better, if you keep at it.