So, I finally made a fetlife account. I’m roughly 35, M.
Looking through people in my area.
See a fairly wide range of people, but notice that… a fair number of accounts are seemingly obviously lying about their age. In either direction, sometimes.
Follow a few accounts.
Surprisingly, one follows me back within like an hour or two … long story short, this woman has a fantastic body, but claims she’s 55. Isn’t showing her face on her profile, totally makes sense as a privacy measure, also leads me to think its more likely she’s listing a fake age, as another privacy measure.
I say hello type words, including basically ‘theres no way you’re 55 right? you look to be 15 years younger.’
Fucking nope, nope I am wrong, she actually is 55, and is just in incredible shape.
So I guess now I am entirely unintentionally into MILFs. Still think she looks great!
Did you also notice how many people are from Antarctica and 99yrs old? So far as the “no face pic” I would bet she has a lot of hidden - for friends only - pics that will have her face.
But why would somebody lie from roughly 30 to present as 55?
Well really, the pattern that I thought I’d noticed was that people would just bullshit their age by a round number, 5, 10, 20, etc years, in any direction.
An obfuscation/privacy tactic more so than like, a catfishing tactic.
The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.
I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.
I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.
It’s funny, because you can just go to the gym and meet people who are both old and in shape. In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because… older people who are in shape are the ones who go to the gym in the first place.
but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym. Idk. Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work. “Captive audience” type shit, it would feel gross to me.
The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.
I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.
I’m responding to the assertion that a 55 year old woman in shape is enough to leave someone baffled and in disbelief because they’ve literally never seen a 55yo woman in as good of shape
I’m not saying every 55yo woman looks like Salma Hayek, but by existing they are disproving this original comment.
So, on Tinder at least, there’s something I read about people under 40 being sorted and matched differently than people over 40. The end result being folks in higher tiers of service getting access to younger matches. But because it’s a semi-known exploit, you end up with people lying about their age to manipulate the match set.
You also get a weird phenomenon such that you see the same list of people showing up over and over again on your feed, until you cross the dateline and suddenly they all vanish.
Perhaps inverting all elements of this…
So, I finally made a fetlife account. I’m roughly 35, M.
Looking through people in my area.
See a fairly wide range of people, but notice that… a fair number of accounts are seemingly obviously lying about their age. In either direction, sometimes.
Follow a few accounts.
Surprisingly, one follows me back within like an hour or two … long story short, this woman has a fantastic body, but claims she’s 55. Isn’t showing her face on her profile, totally makes sense as a privacy measure, also leads me to think its more likely she’s listing a fake age, as another privacy measure.
I say hello type words, including basically ‘theres no way you’re 55 right? you look to be 15 years younger.’
Fucking nope, nope I am wrong, she actually is 55, and is just in incredible shape.
So I guess now I am entirely unintentionally into MILFs. Still think she looks great!
Did you also notice how many people are from Antarctica and 99yrs old? So far as the “no face pic” I would bet she has a lot of hidden - for friends only - pics that will have her face.
Why would a 40 year old lie about being 55? What a strange accusation hahah
I’d believe people are lying about being older if they’re really young on dating apps.
I mistyped, I meant to write 25 years younger.
But why would somebody lie from roughly 30 to present as 55?
Well really, the pattern that I thought I’d noticed was that people would just bullshit their age by a round number, 5, 10, 20, etc years, in any direction.
An obfuscation/privacy tactic more so than like, a catfishing tactic.
The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.
I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.
Sigh.
???
Is… is this a problem for you, in some way?
That I have a body type preference, on a website explicitly designed for people to seek out specific consensual sexual experiences?
You’ve literally never seen a 55 year old woman in shape? I don’t believe you.
Look up a list of celebrity women who are currently 55 years old.
This idea that women are decrepit and ugly and old at 55 is asinine.
Edit: Y’all really going to believe that women like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett don’t exist?
It’s funny, because you can just go to the gym and meet people who are both old and in shape. In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because… older people who are in shape are the ones who go to the gym in the first place.
I’m not single
or 55
but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym. Idk. Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work. “Captive audience” type shit, it would feel gross to me.
They’re not talking about approaching women at the gym.
They’re talking about observing women that are over 55 and in shape. Because they exist. Despite popular belief.
Exactly.
Literally one can go to the grocery store and find a woman who is over 50 and in shape. I would bet money.
I mean, fit people still shop. It’s just going to be much more of a crap shoot.
honestly it’s more disingenuous and sexist to pretend that every 55 year old woman looks like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett, velma
I’m responding to the assertion that a 55 year old woman in shape is enough to leave someone baffled and in disbelief because they’ve literally never seen a 55yo woman in as good of shape
I’m not saying every 55yo woman looks like Salma Hayek, but by existing they are disproving this original comment.
So, on Tinder at least, there’s something I read about people under 40 being sorted and matched differently than people over 40. The end result being folks in higher tiers of service getting access to younger matches. But because it’s a semi-known exploit, you end up with people lying about their age to manipulate the match set.
You also get a weird phenomenon such that you see the same list of people showing up over and over again on your feed, until you cross the dateline and suddenly they all vanish.
Yeah I’ve heard of that. Usually it’s a person in their 20s that wants access to older people though, not 40 year olds trying to trick 55 year olds.