Disappeared can have a lot of dif meanings behind it these days.
My insta is empty. Apparently I’ve disappeared
Seems like I’m a little bit all over the place lol
Right, I’m like shit, these are all me.
Looking forward to being on the bottom right.
At some when people get too busy to be concerned I’ll delete my snap and insta leaving nothing behind. I just don’t understand why people feel the need to share everything they’re doing constantly or how they get upset if you don’t have the energy to react to it all.
Ive already done this at 24, no snap, insta, reddit, Facebook, and im slowly starting to get rid of tiktok now
I just don’t understand why people feel the need to share everything they’re doing constantly or how they get upset if you don’t have the energy to react to it all.
Dopamine hit.
I’m none of those. I’m always around with nothing to say, no family, stupid job, and not training for anything. that doesn’t hold me back from being really annoying on social media. (☝︎ ՞ਊ ՞)☝︎
I’m the one who disappears for a while lol. “Is he in jail or in the Cayman Islands… who knows”
I know a guy who is three of these things. Goes to the gym 6 days a week, works in a hospital, starting a business, has a wife and a kid, and he still manages to have time to hang out once or twice a week. Man is as successful as I am not
As someone who is some of those things as well, I would love to know what the wife and/or child are doing during all those activities. Because something has to give when you’re doing that much.
In my experience, that balance is really hard, and even in the most hospitable, high-quality-of-life places, that balance is not exactly always something that is nurtured and valued by the systems in place.
I think he really is just built different. I’m good friends with both parents, and knew his wife long before he did. Both of them are working on higher education, kid goes to daycare most days every week. It’s not like he never sees his son either. Usually when I hang out, we’re watching his boy while we play BG3, which is nice because he can just walk away for a minute whenever a diaper needs changed
Having recieved a large sum of life insurance money after his father passed away certainly helped with the house buying and the car maintaining and the education pursuing, but his time management is pure skill
I wonder if your friend can sleep only five hours and still function to the maximum. Apparently it is genetics. Napoleon and Thatcher could sleep less than 7 hours and could still think sharp and be fresh as a daisy.
A distinct lack of “drugs/degeneracy” category
I think that’s a subset of “disappeared”. If you followed up on the people who disappeared, it’s a coin flip as to whether they just hate people or have fallen on hard times.
Drugs / Degeneracy can fall into all 4 of these categories?
You think that workaholic doesn’t need a little help? That trainer, a boost? While the e family takes some to forget how stressful it is to works multiple full-time jobs.
yeah I feel severely underrepresented
Do some drugs, you’ll feel better.
way ahead of you!
unfortunately, the way I’m on is downhill.
Bottom half. You will never hear about my triumphs. They’re mine only.
Mine either.
I’m proudly in the “obsessed with work” category (organizing working class unions)
Proud member of the bottom right. Oddly, it has made me a big topic of conversation among my friends, and I don’t get that at all.
How do you know this if you’ve disappeared? There are people like this in my life that no one has heard from in 20 years. Now that’s hardcore.
Meh, I’m not hardcore, I just don’t have social media and I don’t do weddings, birthdays, or anything involving children, so I pretty much just meet up with them at shows these days.
How are they in your life if you haven’t heard from them in 20 years?
They’re in his basement. Nobody else has heard of them.
That IS hardcore!
Ok bad choice of words.They used to be in my life.
Now they’re dead in your basement.
This could be funny if it wasn’t such a sad outlook on life.
At least you can pretend to Excel at something
Word.
Powerful Point.
Windows puns run out, Lemmy know.
I tell people that I told my ROTC cadre that my nonexistent sister got me pregnant and that’s why I stare at goats now, which is a fancy way to say I do counterintelligence, and everyone disappears from my perspective.
Drugs
I am totally on the bottom right group.
My people
Our numbers are uncountable
Yeah, I’m in the void. I have no idea what I’m doing and I’m sad.
No, I must disagree. Most of my friends are right in the centre. Many are starting families, but are also working on careers and are well intentioned gym goers who I speak to less and less because life is too busy.
How the fuck does anyone have the energy for all that?
Work means surviving. You either have the energy for it or you’re fucked.
“Training” can be a fancy way of saying you are very focused on one aspect of athleticism for your health, and you’ll discover that you have more energy for other things if you maintain your health and exercise. At first you feel like you don’t have the energy for it, then you do it, then you have the energy for that and more.
Also many sleep way better after getting healthier, so it builds upon itself even more. Some people struggle with sleep apnea and shit like that, and one reason is the tongue holds a lot of fat. Lose weight and you sleep better. Sleep better and it’s easier to lose weight and have energy to do other stuff. It’s the opposite of a downward spiral.
They don’t do all equally well, and none are done above average.
Discipline. Basically.
Discipline, also known as ignoring basic needs until one burns out with a whole bunch of different outcomes from addictions to suicide
You sound like you need to learn discipline.
Healthy outlook you’ve got there…
I don’t have an answer for that. You just do what you have to do.
This is my experience, as well. It sounds like I’m a few years older than you, but almost everyone in my larger friend group is/was doing all of these things, particularly so if the bottom left is just “intensely focused on some new niche hobby.”
Yeah I was about to say - I’m all of these things. I feel like that’s pretty common.
