• quill7513@anarchist.nexus
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    2 days ago

    and if you interrogate where that insecurity has its roots, you will often find the answer is a society that constantly subjects women to judgement for their appearance, be that negative or positive judgement. it is simply the experience of being judged. botox, ozempic, plastic surgery, etc all becomes gender affirming care when you are femme in a society that requires femme identifying people to perform the role of disireable sexual object

    the original post asks why. the original post also is why

    and men have their own experiences with oppositional gaze, too, so we are clear. if you’ve ever heard the phrase “low t” applied to a man in his 30s or later, you have witnessed it

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      And now we have social media influencers marketing fucking 10 kinds of steroids to children. It’s insanity.

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        the best thing you can do to resist it i think is make sure the people in your life know you value them for them and not for their aesthetic charm. everyone tell a friend right now that you think they’re funny, or that you apprecieate their kindness, or that you value their perspective, or anything that’s based on their persona and not their physical appearance. and if you are struck by someone’s physical charm, pause, and take a moment to notice their outfit and compliment that instead. their outfit required them to make choices about their personal sense of style