• Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech
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    Some weird sexist crap. My spouse and I have always split everything, in fact I was in college while she was already working, and paid for me most of the time. Generalizing like this only solidifies your own personal prejudices.

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      Top: Seeing a boy complain about having to pay for dinner

      Bottom: Having a man have a reasonable conversation about splitting expenses

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    My wife and I both work; she makes about 150% of what I do. This ‘woman bad lol’ rhetoric should just stick to Reddit or 4chan.

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    I think the simplest solution would be to have a mutual account in which both pay in what they can, and then use that to pay for mutual expenses like this.

    From each according to their ability, to each according to their need.

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      Eh that’s a personal rule. We had that for a while but it quickly was clear it was unfair. There are a ton of expectations that one person invites the other, it just doesn’t work out. First date I’d say play over the check, everything after that hopefully is a 50/50, or if one person can’t afford becomes a conversation.

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          23 hours ago

          Society didn’t determine that so much as biology did.

          Regardless, splitting the bill on a date is so completely different and not comparable to splitting shared marital assets during a divorce.

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            Oh. I forgot the part where I invite people to dinner with my penis.

            Ridiculous.

            We are SO far removed from biology that to consider it in social situations is just silly.

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              It’s the whole women get pregnant thing that I was referencing, my dude.

              I always split bills on the first date regardless of the gender of my date. If men went behind my back to pay the entire bill after I said I wanted to split, I would never see them again.

              There’s plenty of women that have their own money. If you don’t want to date a woman who doesn’t want to split on dates, just don’t date her.

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                Women being able to get pregnant does not in any way lead to men pursuing.

                If two adults agree to split a bill, gee that’s nice. It’s also irrelevant. The topic here was “it’s unfair that men pay”, and my point is “it’s not unfair. MEN don’t pay. Inviters pay. And that’s fair.”

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                  Yeah it does lol

                  If men were the ones to get and be pregnant for most of a year and women were able to ejaculate multiple times a day, our society would be structured differently.

                  At the end of the day, no one is being forced to pay.