• genevieve@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      2 days ago

      To be fair, my area of expertise is the girlfriend experience, so I understand how venting could be part of that. Still, I find the trauma dumping exhausting.

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        2 days ago

        Wait so the “girlfriend experience” is more than just sex?

        God see this is why I never bother to figure out how to find escorts. I don’t have time to figure out how it even works

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          17 hours ago

          If you think about having a gf, there’s a lot more to the relationship than sex. Nonsexual physical intimacy, much less anything emotional is extremely lacking for the average male not in a relationship.

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            16 hours ago

            Yeah, see, I’m thinking “order 1 gfe to go” isn’t for me.

            I’ve been separated/divorced (for about 2, years) from a relationship where the intimacy was one sided. For 11 years I stayed married cause that was the only girlfriend I had too.

            A GFE sounds like it would be a nightmare for the provider. Especially because I don’t know how I’d handle it emotionally.

            I gotta date real women first. Somehow.

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              11 hours ago

              I can’t speak to it as I haven’t done one but I can get the desire. I never went on a date or had a gf or any sexual experience until I was 25 and it wasn’t for lack of trying…paying for it would be a sort of bandaid to the issue of loneliness but I wonder if it decreases the chance of becoming an incel.

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          20 hours ago

          That’s the “Escort” part.

          At the high end, escorts have to go to events, dress well, be able to hold an interesting conversation, and essentially be in a relationship for a predetermined amount of time. Sometimes sex isn’t even part of the equation.