I have no problem with people having fun, but my cousin buys fifa or Football manager every year. Which is fine, he has fun with it. Good.
But recently he asked money for fuel. And I lost it. All he wanted was 60 dollars because he ran out budget and is maxed at credit card and payday is 3 days away. I refused stating he has spent over 90$ just this week on a game with no meaningful upgrades. never got big limits, he only has one card of $4k, so not financially irresponsible, but starting to with these kind of decision making. And I need to stop it it’s track.
I can’t understand decision making like this, he is smart enough to know how much fuel he consumes, he bought the game when his tank was around 20-25% full. 3 days later tank is empty and now it’s borrowing time? No man fuck that.
I can understand being unwilling to enable his bad habits, but why does game choice matter? If he spent it on indies you’d have helped out? I think that’s just as bad.
That’s a fair point though. Although he needed money only for three days. And i guess I would’ve lent him because he would return it. Come to think of it, I’m feeling like the asshole now.
Any advice on how else can I make him understand priority?
You can try all you like by being as educational and understanding as possible, but from what I’ve seen while doing that exact song and dance, is that people don’t care a lot of the time. Like, a scary amount of the time.
I still recommend at least trying, but don’t expect much out of people who can’t think about the next week, let alone the next month/year. :-/
Maybe talk about how you know asking for money sucks and how by budgeting and prioritizing he can not only never need to ask, he can find himself getting things that he wants more and not having to worry about running out of money for things he needs.
I have no problem with people having fun, but my cousin buys fifa or Football manager every year. Which is fine, he has fun with it. Good. But recently he asked money for fuel. And I lost it. All he wanted was 60 dollars because he ran out budget and is maxed at credit card and payday is 3 days away. I refused stating he has spent over 90$ just this week on a game with no meaningful upgrades. never got big limits, he only has one card of $4k, so not financially irresponsible, but starting to with these kind of decision making. And I need to stop it it’s track.
I can’t understand decision making like this, he is smart enough to know how much fuel he consumes, he bought the game when his tank was around 20-25% full. 3 days later tank is empty and now it’s borrowing time? No man fuck that.
I can understand being unwilling to enable his bad habits, but why does game choice matter? If he spent it on indies you’d have helped out? I think that’s just as bad.
That’s a fair point though. Although he needed money only for three days. And i guess I would’ve lent him because he would return it. Come to think of it, I’m feeling like the asshole now.
Any advice on how else can I make him understand priority?
You can try all you like by being as educational and understanding as possible, but from what I’ve seen while doing that exact song and dance, is that people don’t care a lot of the time. Like, a scary amount of the time.
I still recommend at least trying, but don’t expect much out of people who can’t think about the next week, let alone the next month/year. :-/
Maybe talk about how you know asking for money sucks and how by budgeting and prioritizing he can not only never need to ask, he can find himself getting things that he wants more and not having to worry about running out of money for things he needs.
Thr 90 dollar game is jot his problem, he probably spend hundreds or thousands on fifa microtransactions.