It’s not about men vs. women, it’s short hair vs. long hair. Most men don’t have long hair, the dish soap works for short hair but depending on your hair type you want to use something better for long hair.
I wash my very long hair 2-3 times a week and often get compliments from women. Many express some variation of “I wish my hair would grow that long” but none of them like the answer. “I do nothing to it. No heat treatments, no bleach, no color, no tight braids, no styling. Shampoo approximately every other day and condition weekly.”
(Dish soap would probably strip the natural oils too aggressively, even for short hair. Rough on the scalp.)
Dish soap on hair is actually awful, leaves it dry, clumped/stuck together, and unmanageable. I got something in my hair when I was under 10, all I remember is it was SO BAD I willingly went to wash my hair.
I have a similar routine to you I don’t blow dry either it is towel dry, except I condition each time I wash, and get the same responses from women who equally do not like the “I wash, condition, and cut it (well its been a few years now but) every 3 months, and do nothing else.”
There’s a lot of nuance to this topic I think. In my (VERY anecdotal) experience men often have thicker hair which tends to be less brittle less quickly.
At least that’s my experience as trans woman, around the time my treatment started my hair got slightly thinner and more prone to damage. So it’s probably also a hormonal thing.
Cis man here with long hair. My hair is super thin and breaks like crazy. I went to dermatologist (thought I was going bald lol) and it seems that hair changes a lot between people and some advice I’ve seen online isn’t as general as much as people think, like not washing your hair everyday (she told me my hair NEEDS to be washed everyday cause it gets mega oily quickly).
But yeah, longer hair needs more care for sure, like, I had never used hair conditioner before but now it’s a must, started using a hair drier sometimes too. I used to think that women taking a long time to shower and get ready we’re just slow but fuck, long hair is a lot of work.
Water hardness matters a lot, too. When I visit my family and shower with their super soft water, I could use industrial degreaser and my hair would be just fine.
But when I’m at home where the water is super hard? I better use a shampoo without sodium laureth sulfate and condition regularly or my hair will become an uncombable abomination within a few days.
This actually might be the secret! I live in a hard water area but I’ve got a water softener for my hot water in the house. I’ll have to test this out when I visit friends next who don’t have a softener.
My hair is also frizzy as fuck and the only thing that matters is styling gel. Hair care routine is basically meaningless for me, when either washed or unwashed, I get the same frizzy style until I gel up and style my hair.
Long haired woman here: I use dr bronners and no conditioner and it suits my purposes. It does feel nicer with a deep conditioner, but it’s not worth the extra time imo
I’m a guy. I’ve had very long hair and very short hair, and everything in between. I’ve always just used regular shampoo whatever generic regular brand I find.
As someone else mentioned it’s more about the styling afterwards. And also the hair type.
It’s not about men vs. women, it’s short hair vs. long hair. Most men don’t have long hair, the dish soap works for short hair but depending on your hair type you want to use something better for long hair.
I wash my very long hair 2-3 times a week and often get compliments from women. Many express some variation of “I wish my hair would grow that long” but none of them like the answer. “I do nothing to it. No heat treatments, no bleach, no color, no tight braids, no styling. Shampoo approximately every other day and condition weekly.”
(Dish soap would probably strip the natural oils too aggressively, even for short hair. Rough on the scalp.)
Dish soap on hair is actually awful, leaves it dry, clumped/stuck together, and unmanageable. I got something in my hair when I was under 10, all I remember is it was SO BAD I willingly went to wash my hair.
I have a similar routine to you I don’t blow dry either it is towel dry, except I condition each time I wash, and get the same responses from women who equally do not like the “I wash, condition, and cut it (well its been a few years now but) every 3 months, and do nothing else.”
There’s a lot of nuance to this topic I think. In my (VERY anecdotal) experience men often have thicker hair which tends to be less brittle less quickly. At least that’s my experience as trans woman, around the time my treatment started my hair got slightly thinner and more prone to damage. So it’s probably also a hormonal thing.
Cis man here with long hair. My hair is super thin and breaks like crazy. I went to dermatologist (thought I was going bald lol) and it seems that hair changes a lot between people and some advice I’ve seen online isn’t as general as much as people think, like not washing your hair everyday (she told me my hair NEEDS to be washed everyday cause it gets mega oily quickly).
But yeah, longer hair needs more care for sure, like, I had never used hair conditioner before but now it’s a must, started using a hair drier sometimes too. I used to think that women taking a long time to shower and get ready we’re just slow but fuck, long hair is a lot of work.
Long haired cismale here. I can use the cheapest shower gel and look magnificent.
Hello name sibling! I’m a long haired lady person.
I bet we’d look glorious, side by side, hair billowing in our combined, sparkling winds.
Good for you. My hair is frizzy as fuck and I can tell you there is certainly a difference between a $3 and $12 conditioner.
I feel you. There’s also a huge difference between cheap conditioner and no conditioner.
Water hardness matters a lot, too. When I visit my family and shower with their super soft water, I could use industrial degreaser and my hair would be just fine.
But when I’m at home where the water is super hard? I better use a shampoo without sodium laureth sulfate and condition regularly or my hair will become an uncombable abomination within a few days.
This actually might be the secret! I live in a hard water area but I’ve got a water softener for my hot water in the house. I’ll have to test this out when I visit friends next who don’t have a softener.
My hair is also frizzy as fuck and the only thing that matters is styling gel. Hair care routine is basically meaningless for me, when either washed or unwashed, I get the same frizzy style until I gel up and style my hair.
Possibly the flashy flatulence helps?
i can second this
Him looking magnificent?
sure what else could i have meant
Long haired woman here: I use dr bronners and no conditioner and it suits my purposes. It does feel nicer with a deep conditioner, but it’s not worth the extra time imo
I’m a guy. I’ve had very long hair and very short hair, and everything in between. I’ve always just used regular shampoo whatever generic regular brand I find.
As someone else mentioned it’s more about the styling afterwards. And also the hair type.