Whats with cuck porn tho? It just gives me such a bad feeling. I get that some people enjoy ones where its more like domination and the “cuck” also get fucked by the dom or something similar but the straight up cuck porn just disgusts me.
I spoke to a therapist about this. They said that it is a pretty common mechanism that the mind will use to provide a sense of control to someone that has been cheated on and still has trust issues.
So the way I understand it, is if you were cheated on and have trust issues, watching cuck porn helps your mind feel like it has control of that emotion?
I don’t have that issue, but I do have PTSD and my mind does some really weird shit sometimes to make sense of problematic emotions.
So, it seems logical to me that this could be true, considering my own experience with my brain’s subconscious mental gymnastics.
I like it, but I’ve also never pictured myself as a participant in porn, it’s just a thing that I like to look at, like a painting or a sunset. I never understood people who put themselves into stories and whatnot - I’m not a character in the scene I’m watching or the game I’m playing, I’m me - the person enjoying that media. I just think it’s hot when a lady likes sex so much that she’ll give up a loving partner just to have better sex with some other guy.
It’s not my cup of tea either but I guess it’s about mental domination. Like an “ultimate” form of teasing. The cuck longs for the dom but is completely disregarded and instead someone else gets the doms attention and pleasure. So I think it’s a bit like tease and denial.
Yeah but it somehow crosses a barrier in my brain that just really fucking annoys me. Im somewhat into femdom n’stuff you know but even as a sub i would NEVER be a cuck. Like thats instantly where the relationship ends for me. Idk maybe a lot of people dont think about it this way cause i see so many people enjoying at least the content side of it. Also being the dom(idk what they call the opposite of the cuck) still feels disgusting. Once again i totally get doing a mmf threesome or something but just fucking someone while their SO watches would make me puke.
I think I understand you now. I could also never be a cuck. However, when I stumble upon this kind of porn, I don’t have this feeling of disgust. I think it’s because I don’t identify with the cuck the same way as you do. Unless I made the video myself (I don’t make videos) all characters in porn movies are strangers to me. I like women and if the porn movie has a women that attracts me she’ll (because it’s a movie) always have sex with someone else, not me. So it wouldn’t make sense for me to feel jealous or hurt because of it. If there’s a cuck in such a video it’s just another dude in my view and him being mentally tormented is just an idea or symbol of her absolute power over men. However, in real life I wouldn’t want to be in this kind of situation, especially not with someone I deeply care about. It’s weird and so is my mind.
I was recently having a discussion with my girlfriend on why i feel this exact way. I was having alot of trouble putting into words what about it is so off putting to me. she accused me of kink shaming them, and I dont disagree with that assessment. But i was struggling to express WHY? I find the whole culture surrounding it disgusting. Weirdly it has nothing to do with the obvious infections and diseases associated with casual sex, and obviously people can do whatever they want in the privacy of their own homes. I generally take no issue with anything ‘odd’ in the bedroom. Theres just something off about the culture as a whole that sounds all the alarm bells in my brain.
Maybe someone can put into words what this feeling is and where its coming from?
Whats with cuck porn tho? It just gives me such a bad feeling. I get that some people enjoy ones where its more like domination and the “cuck” also get fucked by the dom or something similar but the straight up cuck porn just disgusts me.
I spoke to a therapist about this. They said that it is a pretty common mechanism that the mind will use to provide a sense of control to someone that has been cheated on and still has trust issues.
So the way I understand it, is if you were cheated on and have trust issues, watching cuck porn helps your mind feel like it has control of that emotion?
I don’t have that issue, but I do have PTSD and my mind does some really weird shit sometimes to make sense of problematic emotions.
So, it seems logical to me that this could be true, considering my own experience with my brain’s subconscious mental gymnastics.
Hmm ive never thought of that part. Interesting at least i can say so.
I like it, but I’ve also never pictured myself as a participant in porn, it’s just a thing that I like to look at, like a painting or a sunset. I never understood people who put themselves into stories and whatnot - I’m not a character in the scene I’m watching or the game I’m playing, I’m me - the person enjoying that media. I just think it’s hot when a lady likes sex so much that she’ll give up a loving partner just to have better sex with some other guy.
They enjoy the awful feeling you get when something bad is happening to you you can’t do anything about.
It’s not my cup of tea either but I guess it’s about mental domination. Like an “ultimate” form of teasing. The cuck longs for the dom but is completely disregarded and instead someone else gets the doms attention and pleasure. So I think it’s a bit like tease and denial.
Yeah but it somehow crosses a barrier in my brain that just really fucking annoys me. Im somewhat into femdom n’stuff you know but even as a sub i would NEVER be a cuck. Like thats instantly where the relationship ends for me. Idk maybe a lot of people dont think about it this way cause i see so many people enjoying at least the content side of it. Also being the dom(idk what they call the opposite of the cuck) still feels disgusting. Once again i totally get doing a mmf threesome or something but just fucking someone while their SO watches would make me puke.
I think I understand you now. I could also never be a cuck. However, when I stumble upon this kind of porn, I don’t have this feeling of disgust. I think it’s because I don’t identify with the cuck the same way as you do. Unless I made the video myself (I don’t make videos) all characters in porn movies are strangers to me. I like women and if the porn movie has a women that attracts me she’ll (because it’s a movie) always have sex with someone else, not me. So it wouldn’t make sense for me to feel jealous or hurt because of it. If there’s a cuck in such a video it’s just another dude in my view and him being mentally tormented is just an idea or symbol of her absolute power over men. However, in real life I wouldn’t want to be in this kind of situation, especially not with someone I deeply care about. It’s weird and so is my mind.
I was recently having a discussion with my girlfriend on why i feel this exact way. I was having alot of trouble putting into words what about it is so off putting to me. she accused me of kink shaming them, and I dont disagree with that assessment. But i was struggling to express WHY? I find the whole culture surrounding it disgusting. Weirdly it has nothing to do with the obvious infections and diseases associated with casual sex, and obviously people can do whatever they want in the privacy of their own homes. I generally take no issue with anything ‘odd’ in the bedroom. Theres just something off about the culture as a whole that sounds all the alarm bells in my brain.
Maybe someone can put into words what this feeling is and where its coming from?
Insecurity, probably.