As someone who actually climbs mountains, I can tell you that it can actually be quite complicated depending on the mountain, lol.
But anyway - climbing a mountain is impressive, if I do say so myself!
On the whole, I agree and disagree. I think that in general you should focus on doing things that would impress you. Like, I like climbing mountains, and so I set climbing goals for myself that I find impressive. And then girls with similar values to myself - adventurous, athletic, pragmatic, open minded women - are attracted to me because I am doing things they also find impressive. On the other hand, women who, say, really like going to the club and working corporate office jobs and starting families in white picket fence homes tend to be less impressed. But this works out for me because I will enjoy my time with the former far more than the latter, while someone with different values from me may enjoy the latter more than the former.
So I’m a big fan of being the best version of you that you can be.
But on the other hand, I think we should be quite frank about the fact that there are some things that guys can do that are generally attractive. Trying to improve these things, especially in a place like Lemmy, is often construed as misguided or shallow or fake - but I think this is mostly because Lemmy is a crab bucket for lonely men, and even if you improve at these things solely for the purpose of getting more bjs, your life will be better for it in the long run
Climbing a mountain is hard but not complicated.
Do something impressive is vague, subjective, and shifting goal.
Anyway, looking for validation is the wrong approach.
Other humans aren’t exactly fit to judge…
Focus on being who you’d like to date instead!
That’s why I got a dump truck back there /j
As someone who actually climbs mountains, I can tell you that it can actually be quite complicated depending on the mountain, lol.
But anyway - climbing a mountain is impressive, if I do say so myself!
On the whole, I agree and disagree. I think that in general you should focus on doing things that would impress you. Like, I like climbing mountains, and so I set climbing goals for myself that I find impressive. And then girls with similar values to myself - adventurous, athletic, pragmatic, open minded women - are attracted to me because I am doing things they also find impressive. On the other hand, women who, say, really like going to the club and working corporate office jobs and starting families in white picket fence homes tend to be less impressed. But this works out for me because I will enjoy my time with the former far more than the latter, while someone with different values from me may enjoy the latter more than the former.
So I’m a big fan of being the best version of you that you can be.
But on the other hand, I think we should be quite frank about the fact that there are some things that guys can do that are generally attractive. Trying to improve these things, especially in a place like Lemmy, is often construed as misguided or shallow or fake - but I think this is mostly because Lemmy is a crab bucket for lonely men, and even if you improve at these things solely for the purpose of getting more bjs, your life will be better for it in the long run
Maybe sometimes, you are your best company.
Humans are…unreliable. They fail you when you need them most.