• TabbsTheBat (they/them)@pawb.social
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    3 hours ago

    I actually blocked someone over something like this =w=

    An ex friend that kept bothering me for linux help, and would refuse to look at or read any source. Literally got so annoyed of them asking something, me telling them what to do, telling them the tools that can do it, and even linking sources that explain the tools, and they still message me with some rudimentary thing that’s literally in the first paragraph of the step by step guide breaking down each argument etc.

    Some people just don’t want to try or be competent, they just want to shout “I don’t know computers” and make you read out the same steps you just sent them

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      There’s a phenomenon called “learned helplessness” where people simply don’t realize they’re capable of doing such things for themselves. They hit the limits of their knowledge and instinctively look to another human for answers, failing to realize they’re capable of taking the very same steps as the person they’re asking.

      I’m not making excuses for them, just telling you so you know what to research to understand it better. It’s one of those things, once you know what it is, you start to notice it everywhere.

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        2 hours ago

        Im very aware =w= I just got tired of putting on with it, especially with the way they were treating me like on call tech support expecting me to forego my plans or use my free time to assist with whatever, whenever

        At some point even if you know why someone acts they way they do, you just have to throw in the towel and look out for your own health

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      What source do/should you ever have to read though?

      There’s probably an easier distro and solution for them

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        2 hours ago

        They were on mint lol. They just wanted to do a bunch of random specific stuff like transferring their entire setup from one drive to another, and then transfer the windows to a drive their linux was on, or installing windows apps that require pretty specific setups (which usually had install scripts made for them, but even reading the guide to how to run those was something they were struggling to do) etc.

        I mean, I did mention a lot of alternative solutions and all that, but they weren’t always accepted