• onthesolivine@fedia.io
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    9 hours ago

    yeah this kind of stuff needs consent from everyone or you’re just making people uncomfortable and that’s not fun or very nice

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      7 hours ago

      I think there’s a real selfish mindset to it: people who do this like using their sexuality to get a reaction, even if others don’t enjoy it. They like “making a man hot under the collar” or watching someone try to decide whether to say something, or then feeling superior because they didn’t name the violation of social norms.

      I kinda get the other side: if we were more open about sex and nudity it’d save a lot of grief. But I think you can tell when someone wants to do that versus when they get a power trip from sitting around with their tits out, because it’s done in smaller ways.