• TheThunderWolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 hours ago

    im not trying to be provocative im trying to be progressive

    this is english: we have gender neutral terms, which should for many reasons be used

    many people (including myself) find misgendering to be offensive, and many people (including myself) find complicity in the patriarchy offensive

    and also in those other languages people and organizations still often favour gender neutral language; in spanish the forms -e or -i or -x or -@ are somewhat common, i see signage using -x or -e, and spam texts sometimes use -@

    and also, why would you not adjust? saying “they” won’t hurt you

    • forbiddencherry@lemmy.today
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      37 minutes ago

      Intentionally misgendering is offensive, but that’s not what happened here, in my opinion. There’s nothing in their profile so sure going neutral with they/them is probably a safer option, but defaulting to male pronouns (which traditionally are all encompassing) is also fine, IMO. If they had a preference that they cared about then they would specify it.