• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    21 hours ago

    I am a guy who is a genuine switch.

    I’ve only ever met a single genuine female switch, and she was literally a diagnosed nymphomaniac.

    I’ve met other guy switches, uncommon but not too uncommon… never ever met another female switch.

    Swear to flying spaghetti monster its a curse, its the type O- of sexual styles.

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      6 hours ago

      Thank you for posting this. I am 99.9% sure I am a switch (M) but I’ve been dominated for exactly 5 minutes of my life bc every other partner I’ve had (F so far) was 99% sub.

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        Yeah, by far most women I’ve met are some flavor of sub: brat, princess, service, etc.

        Sometimes they’re confused and say they’re something else, spend at least a few weeks to months with them… nope, they’re subs, taking the lead is not something they ever do on their own initiative.

        Then, a fair number of woman are genuine doms of some kind, and know it. Occasionally, a few of them will think they are a switch… but again, go for weeks to months, no, they genuienly hate it when they’re not in control.

        But a woman switch? Who not only can, but has to switch the power dynamics, who can’t help themselves from doing that, who needs a shifting balance of both?

        Yeah, at least in my experience, about as common as a shiny pokemon.

        EDIT:

        Ok, upon reflection, I have met a second, I think, genuine female switch.

        Long story short, masseuse. Masseuse who tried multiple times to give me a ‘happy ending’ that I did not ask for, and that I refused multiple times.

        She did seem to genuienly enjoy playing with power dynamics, lets just put it that way. Basically, it got to the point where I actually had to use some measured physical force to stop her from trying to give me a handy… she was very insistent, pouty when I stopped her… but also seemed aroused by being slightly manhandled / me flipping the power dyanamic.

        We did not ever actually get to the point of what I would call ‘having sex’, but damn if that wasn’t the kind of mindset and temperment of an actual Switch.