• Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works
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    6 days ago

    Both half wrong imo. I’m relatively new to the whole dating and multi dating thing but what I’ve come up with is:

    Never ghost if you’ve made plans or texted a lot off app (so points to other person for actually cancelling)

    Don’t rub it in people’s face that you’re seeing other people but be honest if asked (negative points to other person)

    Accept rejection gracefully with no hard feelings. I got ghosted recently and struggled with this one but stayed strong.

    Any tips appreciated though because it can be tough out there.

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      6 days ago

      I really don’t think teal did anything wrong, in fact I think it would have been wrong to keep it to themself. Too much shitty behavior going unchallenged in our world these days imo.

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        5 days ago

        Fair enough. I’d have gone with a more generic message like “something came up.” instead of “sorry you were my backup option but you are no longer needed for tonight.”

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          Oh, grey absolutely could have done way better. That was rude and inhumane. I just don’t think teal did anything wrong by expressing that it’s a relief to not be connected to a person who would act like grey.

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      6 days ago

      The impression I get is that teal and grey have been hooking up casually for a while and have been open in their discussions about actively looking for other people. Teal’s “thank god” is a call back to grey’s consistent difficulty finding s suitible partner or complaints about being unable to find one. Grey then responds with faux outrage.

      I’ve had these sorts of message back and forth with fwbs before, but even meaner. They’re hilarious