My concent overrides my partners concent when it comes to her body.
It doesn’t, but everybody is free to decide whether, how and when they wanna have sex with a person again. For example not having (unprotected penetrative) sex for one to four months could be a response to a partner having (unprotected penetrative) sex with somebody they didn’t know. That’s already a more open minded approach.
you cannot “cheat” to win
You cheat if you have an agreement and you break it. That’s pretty much it. That can also happen with poly.
You can have agreements to make it easier/safer to have unprotected or messy sex.
The main reasons are probably offsprings and STIs. One is how invested a person will or has to be if a pregnancy was to happen. The other is about condoms, prevention, testing and so forth. It’s also easier to judge if you only have to consider one or a low amount of people. (Not that I’ve ever had sex.)
If you have a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about STDs or pregnancy scares, then that’s on you, don’t have irresponsible partners. yhea, what they did is stupid and dangerous, but it only affects you if you concent to be with them. if they lie about it, that’s another problem, and I would consider it as them raping you as you did not have informed concent.
We use protection with strangers and test every 3 months.
byw, I talk about poly, but I personally only have bandwidth for one person, she has her dates, and I’m happy for her. and I have my heart open form other people if they appear magically in my house but I’m not actively looking for more partners. When she took a break from dating I jokes that were acidentally monogamous.
if they lie about it […]s them raping you as you did not have informed concent.
Lying and betrayal are the core issues of cheating. Although what counts as cheating varies, since it is based on implicit and explicit agreements.
Cheating can also happen by accident if implicit agreements are used, but different ones by both parties. One party would still feel betrayed even if it wasn’t intentional.
then that’s on you, don’t have irresponsible partners.
That’s probably why you get downvoted that much. If your partner doesn’t behave how you expect them to and breaks your agreements, that’s not on you. If they also lie, even less.
We use protection with strangers and test every 3 months.
What would you do if your partner cheated on you? Decided to go for a creampie once, but doesn’t tell you because they know that overstepped your boundaries and that knowledge would hurt you?
Or slightly different scenario: Decided to go for a creampie once, but tells you that the condom broke.
It doesn’t, but everybody is free to decide whether, how and when they wanna have sex with a person again. For example not having (unprotected penetrative) sex for one to four months could be a response to a partner having (unprotected penetrative) sex with somebody they didn’t know. That’s already a more open minded approach.
You cheat if you have an agreement and you break it. That’s pretty much it. That can also happen with poly.
You can have agreements to make it easier/safer to have unprotected or messy sex.
The main reasons are probably offsprings and STIs. One is how invested a person will or has to be if a pregnancy was to happen. The other is about condoms, prevention, testing and so forth. It’s also easier to judge if you only have to consider one or a low amount of people. (Not that I’ve ever had sex.)
If you have a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about STDs or pregnancy scares, then that’s on you, don’t have irresponsible partners. yhea, what they did is stupid and dangerous, but it only affects you if you concent to be with them. if they lie about it, that’s another problem, and I would consider it as them raping you as you did not have informed concent.
We use protection with strangers and test every 3 months.
byw, I talk about poly, but I personally only have bandwidth for one person, she has her dates, and I’m happy for her. and I have my heart open form other people if they appear magically in my house but I’m not actively looking for more partners. When she took a break from dating I jokes that were acidentally monogamous.
(for the record: I didn’t downvote you)
Lying and betrayal are the core issues of cheating. Although what counts as cheating varies, since it is based on implicit and explicit agreements.
Cheating can also happen by accident if implicit agreements are used, but different ones by both parties. One party would still feel betrayed even if it wasn’t intentional.
That’s probably why you get downvoted that much. If your partner doesn’t behave how you expect them to and breaks your agreements, that’s not on you. If they also lie, even less.
What would you do if your partner cheated on you? Decided to go for a creampie once, but doesn’t tell you because they know that overstepped your boundaries and that knowledge would hurt you?
Or slightly different scenario: Decided to go for a creampie once, but tells you that the condom broke.