The question you have to ask yourself, though, is this: Do I want to scold white people for their privilege, or do I want to get them on my side to fix it? In my experience, rubbing their noses in it is going to set people’s minds against you. Yes, they’re wrong, yes, they’re bad people, but the real world means hard choices between the euphoric glow of self-righteousness, or actual political effectiveness.
The question you have to ask yourself, though, is this: Do I want to scold white people for their privilege, or do I want to get them on my side to fix it? In my experience, rubbing their noses in it is going to set people’s minds against you.
I think you are making the same mistake they do. You can’t very well get someone to help fix a problem if you don’t let them know the problem exists. Just discussing or explaining white privilege isn’t the same as scolding someone about it. The folks who take it that way are going to take it that way no matter what terms we use, because they don’t want to admit it exists.
I’m so white it looks like my veins got drawn on with a blue sharpie. I went to a segregated prep school.
The “you are playing a multi player game on easy mode and currently you are economically roflstomping the people who are playing on hard mode, and bragging about how well you are doing. Is that who you want to be?” argument was what got to me.
Granted, I used to be male-passing, well paid, healthy, decent looking, I got dealt a very good hand, so that presentation of it found me where I was.
The question you have to ask yourself, though, is this: Do I want to scold white people for their privilege, or do I want to get them on my side to fix it? In my experience, rubbing their noses in it is going to set people’s minds against you. Yes, they’re wrong, yes, they’re bad people, but the real world means hard choices between the euphoric glow of self-righteousness, or actual political effectiveness.
I think you are making the same mistake they do. You can’t very well get someone to help fix a problem if you don’t let them know the problem exists. Just discussing or explaining white privilege isn’t the same as scolding someone about it. The folks who take it that way are going to take it that way no matter what terms we use, because they don’t want to admit it exists.
I’m so white it looks like my veins got drawn on with a blue sharpie. I went to a segregated prep school.
The “you are playing a multi player game on easy mode and currently you are economically roflstomping the people who are playing on hard mode, and bragging about how well you are doing. Is that who you want to be?” argument was what got to me.
Granted, I used to be male-passing, well paid, healthy, decent looking, I got dealt a very good hand, so that presentation of it found me where I was.