I know someone who received a phone call in the morning to ask if they were actually cool with their husband taking a trip across the country with him. Ruined her whole day. Couldnt go to work because she didnt want to cry in the office. She knew about the vacation and was fine with it. Still not entirely sure how that ruined her day, but it did.
But she previously knew about the vacation and was fine with it. I’m not sure how the friend asking if she was cool with the husband going triggering a tantrum.
Like, I’m usually pretty good at understanding the underlying drive of these kinds of emotional maturity failures, but it’s really not clear exactly what she’s upset about.
your problem is you are trying to understand an irrational emotion coming from a crazy/immature person. they don’t need reasons or logic, they just have feelings they can’t control and blame other people for making them feel that way.
they don’t question why they feel a way… they simple hate people who make them feel bad.
Yes, there are people that can’t do that.
I know someone who received a phone call in the morning to ask if they were actually cool with their husband taking a trip across the country with him. Ruined her whole day. Couldnt go to work because she didnt want to cry in the office. She knew about the vacation and was fine with it. Still not entirely sure how that ruined her day, but it did.
I’m not sure I’m following the source of her negative feelings
Sounds like maybe she isn’t either.
The only way I could see it making sense is if the husband was going on a trip with another woman, or he has a history of cheating on her with men.
some people want absolute control over their partner/loved ones. and can’t accept anything less.
But she previously knew about the vacation and was fine with it. I’m not sure how the friend asking if she was cool with the husband going triggering a tantrum.
Like, I’m usually pretty good at understanding the underlying drive of these kinds of emotional maturity failures, but it’s really not clear exactly what she’s upset about.
not having absolute control.
your problem is you are trying to understand an irrational emotion coming from a crazy/immature person. they don’t need reasons or logic, they just have feelings they can’t control and blame other people for making them feel that way.
they don’t question why they feel a way… they simple hate people who make them feel bad.