A few weeks ago I was at the store picking up a few things for my sick kid. The very first aisle I go to as I’m trying to leave it a lady pulls into the aisle to look at whatever was on the end cap and puts her cart right in the middle of the aisle so I can’t get through with my cart. She saw me, we made eye contact for a second and I moved to the right of the aisle. I get to the end and she’s just standing there, not even looking at stuff just looking at me waiting for her to move. After about 20 seconds I can’t believe I have to say anything so I just go “excuse me” and she scoffs and says “you’re fine”. Another 10 seconds and I have to say it again, “excuse me I’m trying to get through” and I don’t know what was going through her head but she started freaking out, “go ahead and get through then I don’t know why you’re standing there”. So I do just that, I used my cart to push hers out of the way (very intentionally just enough to get through) and she lost it. I just proceeded on my way but even after I turned down the next asile I needed something from she was still yelling. This was like 10:30 at night, the store was almost empty so there was plently of room.
This was in an expensive grocery store in a pretty wealthy area. In contrast on my way home I stopped at the poppy shop around the corner because they have a drink I like for a good deal and there was someone who looked like they were emptying their pockets by the trash can but checking out a couple receipts before throwing them away who was blocking the door, I said excuse me when I was a few steps away and he apologized, told me to have a great night and held the door open for me.
So, you attempted regular social cues to communicate what you wanted, and when that failed you escalated to physical aggression and then got upset that the other person got upset?
Like, not trying to throw you under the bus or anything, you both miscommunicated in that situation but you were the one to escalate. If the other person didn’t know what they were doing wrong, couldn’t you have just told them “I’m so sorry, but I can’t get my cart around yours” when they didn’t get why you couldn’t get past?
It really sounds like you were both tired and didn’t have the grace in that moment for each other, rather than some failing on either of your parts.
Yes, it is. It’s why they moderated that they did it as “very intentionally, just trying to get through”. Moving someone or their stuff without permission is an act of physical aggression. I’m not saying they punched them or anything, but there were aggressive in a physical manner.
A few weeks ago I was at the store picking up a few things for my sick kid. The very first aisle I go to as I’m trying to leave it a lady pulls into the aisle to look at whatever was on the end cap and puts her cart right in the middle of the aisle so I can’t get through with my cart. She saw me, we made eye contact for a second and I moved to the right of the aisle. I get to the end and she’s just standing there, not even looking at stuff just looking at me waiting for her to move. After about 20 seconds I can’t believe I have to say anything so I just go “excuse me” and she scoffs and says “you’re fine”. Another 10 seconds and I have to say it again, “excuse me I’m trying to get through” and I don’t know what was going through her head but she started freaking out, “go ahead and get through then I don’t know why you’re standing there”. So I do just that, I used my cart to push hers out of the way (very intentionally just enough to get through) and she lost it. I just proceeded on my way but even after I turned down the next asile I needed something from she was still yelling. This was like 10:30 at night, the store was almost empty so there was plently of room.
This was in an expensive grocery store in a pretty wealthy area. In contrast on my way home I stopped at the poppy shop around the corner because they have a drink I like for a good deal and there was someone who looked like they were emptying their pockets by the trash can but checking out a couple receipts before throwing them away who was blocking the door, I said excuse me when I was a few steps away and he apologized, told me to have a great night and held the door open for me.
So, you attempted regular social cues to communicate what you wanted, and when that failed you escalated to physical aggression and then got upset that the other person got upset?
Like, not trying to throw you under the bus or anything, you both miscommunicated in that situation but you were the one to escalate. If the other person didn’t know what they were doing wrong, couldn’t you have just told them “I’m so sorry, but I can’t get my cart around yours” when they didn’t get why you couldn’t get past?
It really sounds like you were both tired and didn’t have the grace in that moment for each other, rather than some failing on either of your parts.
“Physicial agression”, what the fuck have you been smoking? They said they pushed the cart away with their carts. Nothing agressive about that, wtf.
Yes, it is. It’s why they moderated that they did it as “very intentionally, just trying to get through”. Moving someone or their stuff without permission is an act of physical aggression. I’m not saying they punched them or anything, but there were aggressive in a physical manner.
You cannot be serious
Jesus christ you’re a snowflake if you think moving an object constitutes physical aggression.