depends how crappy, you arnt going to suffer as much if you were white, and not AA whom are likely to be repeat offenders of crimes, due to systemic racism and “policies”. and in what socioecomic region you grew up in. plus daughters dont get the same bad rap as men do(especially in the usa where men are expected to be independant at adulthood). i seen posts in other platform, thier sibling/parent has alot of contempt for thier family member if not outright spite, they actually wish thier family member to fail and get off on it, very strange as its quite unique in the us and the west and very common.

i seen posts where siblings/parents ignore a childs potential issue, and assume that they are intentionally not doing anything with themselfs. on one post in another forum, a older woman ask why thier slightly younger sister wasnt doing what the OP (thinks people should be doing at thier age35+), completely ignoring the enabling, adhd, and health condition of said sister , turns out the OP was ragging ont he sister for quite some time and why she was so dependant on the parents.