The point is, if 10% of guys in a given population are unspeakably awful, that’s the 10% who you will hear from on a dating app. You don’t get that from fems because they are typically being pursued on all dating and social media apps, because we still largely hold to the cultural norm that men/masc presenting people are responsible for asking the other person out.
It seems worse on Grindr because the majority of users are cis men-the very people who have been told since birth that it’s their job to pursue sexual connections. Of course that leads to poor behavior.
The point is, if 10% of guys in a given population are unspeakably awful, that’s the 10% who you will hear from on a dating app. You don’t get that from fems because they are typically being pursued on all dating and social media apps, because we still largely hold to the cultural norm that men/masc presenting people are responsible for asking the other person out.
It seems worse on Grindr because the majority of users are cis men-the very people who have been told since birth that it’s their job to pursue sexual connections. Of course that leads to poor behavior.