I know you mean well here, but this is fully bonkers. This is not how friends behave with each other.
They absolutely don’t owe me shit. We lived with them for a month before they moved, all in same house, for free. So there’s money we didn’t spend right there. We shared meals, shared hangovers, and shared their other friends in a place we were just moving to, which is priceless. But if you’re still really worried about money, they sold us their car for well under KBB as well. The guy’s brother and mom were who we called when stuff broke, and who brought us pupusas randomly when they were in the neighborhood. We trust them and they trust us, so we aren’t going to fuck up their house, and we got landlords that respond to shit immediately. I’m not going to ruin a 20+ year relationship with some tankie notions about “oh, bro, you owe me home equity.” And you can trust that anyone doing something like this knows when they have a good thing going without having to explain details.
Definitely not trying to make any commentary on the quality of your friendship, my bad if you took it that way, but that wasn’t my intent. I’m glad you and your friends came to an arrangement that worked well for everyone.
I worded my comment poorly in a way that forced my ideals onto you, which I shouldn’t do. I should have just expressed that renting is something I personally disagree with and wouldn’t do if I could avoid it. I shouldn’t try to fit everyone into my mold or my way of thinking though, sorry for doing that to you.
I know you mean well here, but this is fully bonkers. This is not how friends behave with each other.
They absolutely don’t owe me shit. We lived with them for a month before they moved, all in same house, for free. So there’s money we didn’t spend right there. We shared meals, shared hangovers, and shared their other friends in a place we were just moving to, which is priceless. But if you’re still really worried about money, they sold us their car for well under KBB as well. The guy’s brother and mom were who we called when stuff broke, and who brought us pupusas randomly when they were in the neighborhood. We trust them and they trust us, so we aren’t going to fuck up their house, and we got landlords that respond to shit immediately. I’m not going to ruin a 20+ year relationship with some tankie notions about “oh, bro, you owe me home equity.” And you can trust that anyone doing something like this knows when they have a good thing going without having to explain details.
Definitely not trying to make any commentary on the quality of your friendship, my bad if you took it that way, but that wasn’t my intent. I’m glad you and your friends came to an arrangement that worked well for everyone.
I worded my comment poorly in a way that forced my ideals onto you, which I shouldn’t do. I should have just expressed that renting is something I personally disagree with and wouldn’t do if I could avoid it. I shouldn’t try to fit everyone into my mold or my way of thinking though, sorry for doing that to you.