“Cheating” isn’t just violating “porking exclusivity rights”, it’s breaking whatever the commitments and promises you have made to others within that relationship.
I agree completely that the institutions of marriage and default of hard monogamy are a “Big capital P PROBLEM”, but only because it prevents thinking and talking about what those commitments should be between the individuals within those relationships. Which inevitably ends up causing harm because it allows for the incredibly immature stance of “all relationships should be {like this}” without considering the wants and needs of those involved.
The problem with the couple above is that they are clearly, and publicly, being caught in the act of breaking the terms of some such personal agreement, however unspoken, and that makes one or both of them a lying, two face, cowardly, immature, piece of shit regardless of any overarching discussion about monogamy, but what else should you expect from a CEO?
The key takeaway is that your message will not land with anyone and will be counterproductive because you are conflating being a dishonest douchenozzle with general non-monogamy and people will resent you and your underlying message, however valid, because of it.
I couldn’t phrase it that constructively while also just “letting it out” I"m not trying to convince anyone just finding why I am so irked/annoyed at people calling the guy’s main being “their life destroyed” by a fucking hug, as if they knew anything about their relationship, they’re just assumed of course in their worldview that’s “being destroyed”, like wow, I don’t want anything to do with any of that crap worldview !
If it was just a fucking hug or just this photo then I’d 100% agree with you, but watch the video that has been linked in this thread, they’re — not subtle. It’s such a grossly over the top “hand in the cookie jar” type moment.
Also you make a good point about the “the guy’s main being “their life destroyed”” being an absolute shit worldview. I get sometimes just needing to vent, but you do understand the consequences and harms of this being your method of release right?
“Cheating” isn’t just violating “porking exclusivity rights”, it’s breaking whatever the commitments and promises you have made to others within that relationship.
I agree completely that the institutions of marriage and default of hard monogamy are a “Big capital P PROBLEM”, but only because it prevents thinking and talking about what those commitments should be between the individuals within those relationships. Which inevitably ends up causing harm because it allows for the incredibly immature stance of “all relationships should be {like this}” without considering the wants and needs of those involved.
The problem with the couple above is that they are clearly, and publicly, being caught in the act of breaking the terms of some such personal agreement, however unspoken, and that makes one or both of them a lying, two face, cowardly, immature, piece of shit regardless of any overarching discussion about monogamy, but what else should you expect from a CEO?
The key takeaway is that your message will not land with anyone and will be counterproductive because you are conflating being a dishonest douchenozzle with general non-monogamy and people will resent you and your underlying message, however valid, because of it.
like no wonder so many married people are unhappy, even people I know personnally think this “sucks but is convenient” wow, that ducking blow
That’s weird, you must be meeting drastically different people than me because most of my social circles are happy in their relationships.
I couldn’t phrase it that constructively while also just “letting it out” I"m not trying to convince anyone just finding why I am so irked/annoyed at people calling the guy’s main being “their life destroyed” by a fucking hug, as if they knew anything about their relationship, they’re just assumed of course in their worldview that’s “being destroyed”, like wow, I don’t want anything to do with any of that crap worldview !
If it was just a fucking hug or just this photo then I’d 100% agree with you, but watch the video that has been linked in this thread, they’re — not subtle. It’s such a grossly over the top “hand in the cookie jar” type moment.
Also you make a good point about the “the guy’s main being “their life destroyed”” being an absolute shit worldview. I get sometimes just needing to vent, but you do understand the consequences and harms of this being your method of release right?