Toxic polyamory is just as bad as toxic monogamy. If people want to be exclusive they should be exclusive. If your partner wants to be exclusive and you don’t, and you choose to cheat, you’re still a piece of shit.
Uhhh, if you don’t like marriage, how about don’t get married?! This isn’t rocket science… They both got married. They both signed the social contract that by default means exclusivity, regardless of what you think.
Judging by how they reacted, they also understood their marriages to be assumed exclusivity, and clearly did not discuss open terms with their spouse. So basically… get some logic skills because your opinion on marriage is irrelevant here.
Even married, you can have an honest discussion with your spouse about seeing other people (preferably before you get married), then just tell them you’re going to see Coleplay with your work girlfriend. Like it’s not illegal, and it’s not even wrong unless you make it wrong by being a shady little shit about it.
Just like fuckin… talk to each other about your feelings. God.
There’s no technicality about it. The people that get married are the ones who determine the exclusivity of the marriage.
Like, it’s even dumber than that because if you didn’t have marriage, you’d still have people in exclusive relationships, so wtf are you complaining about?
that’s brain rot thinking, you know that’s just the default and instance and therefore cannot mean anything that you think it does
This is the kind of generalization behind a lot of evil in the world
I just expressed a maximally dissenting opinion on marriage and yet, the message still stands …
Who are those dissenters that you imagine are getting suppressed on whatever that server is?
But I"m not “there” to me the local tab is meaningless, I don’t even know on what server we are having this discussion besides “the lemmiverse”
So stop it with the digital provincialism !
I’m all for people being able to bone other consenting adults, married or not, but these two clearly think that cheating is bad. If they had open relationships, then why would they care if they were seen together?
It’s ragebait for people who think porking rights should be exclusive by default. And by that I mean nasty horrible idiots. Abolish marriage!
Toxic polyamory is just as bad as toxic monogamy. If people want to be exclusive they should be exclusive. If your partner wants to be exclusive and you don’t, and you choose to cheat, you’re still a piece of shit.
Uhhh, if you don’t like marriage, how about don’t get married?! This isn’t rocket science… They both got married. They both signed the social contract that by default means exclusivity, regardless of what you think.
Judging by how they reacted, they also understood their marriages to be assumed exclusivity, and clearly did not discuss open terms with their spouse. So basically… get some logic skills because your opinion on marriage is irrelevant here.
Even married, you can have an honest discussion with your spouse about seeing other people (preferably before you get married), then just tell them you’re going to see Coleplay with your work girlfriend. Like it’s not illegal, and it’s not even wrong unless you make it wrong by being a shady little shit about it.
Just like fuckin… talk to each other about your feelings. God.
I love how you’re being downvoted for stating the most obvious solution. TIL certain lemmings don’t believe in healthy communication.
My besties have been in an open relationship for years and it works because of communication, trust, and trying to deserve said trust.
No, I want it abolished as a social expectation of the “default” situation.
No one forces a marriage to be monogamous…
Put it along with rest of crap in the “you are not techncially required” pile
There’s no technicality about it. The people that get married are the ones who determine the exclusivity of the marriage.
Like, it’s even dumber than that because if you didn’t have marriage, you’d still have people in exclusive relationships, so wtf are you complaining about?
I understand how shitty conservative social norms are to those repressed by them, but this usage of marriage as an example is… rather ridiculous.
The problem isn’t the lack of monogamy, it’s the violation of your partner(‘)(s)(’) trust.
I wanted to ask if you’re ok there but then I saw lemmy.ml and everything made sense all of a sudden.
that’s brain rot thinking, you know that’s just the default and instance and therefore cannot mean anything that you think it does This is the kind of generalization behind a lot of evil in the world
It’s an echochamber with all dissent being suppressed. The way you write shows you’re deeply stuck in it.
I just expressed a maximally dissenting opinion on marriage and yet, the message still stands … Who are those dissenters that you imagine are getting suppressed on whatever that server is?
But I"m not “there” to me the local tab is meaningless, I don’t even know on what server we are having this discussion besides “the lemmiverse” So stop it with the digital provincialism !
I’m all for people being able to bone other consenting adults, married or not, but these two clearly think that cheating is bad. If they had open relationships, then why would they care if they were seen together?