• esc27@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Phone calls are rude. They demand your immediate attention with a loud alarm and no regard for where you might be or what you are doing. Texts/email are respectful. They make a small chime just to let you know they are around, then wait patiently for you to read and respond.

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      That’s the point. You get an answer immediately. Also it’s way faster than texting since it’s synchronous

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        Which is great when people use a phone call in situations where an immediate response is warranted – not so great when I realize I’ve had the device occupying one of my hands and my attention for 10 minutes, and the speaker has yet to make a point

        There are certain people who when I see calling, I just won’t pick up. On the other hand, when the phone rang at 4am and it was my brother, I knew something terrible had happened. If he had been a frequent caller/offender, I’d have silenced and ignored the call, but I’m really thankful that I picked up. It’s like a “boy who cried wolf” situation.

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      Why not just mute the phone while you’re not interested in being contacted synchronously, and rejecting calls when you don’t have the ability to talk synchronously?

      Wild take to be honest, it’s essentially the equivalent of saying that in-person conversations are rude and that people should send you a physical letter instead.

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        Because some things warrant my immediate attention, and most don’t. I am never interested in being contacted synchronously unless it’s something actually urgent. And because of that I can tell people that if they need me, they can call me and if I’m at all able I will answer immediately, otherwise I will probably answer later, aka whenever I happen to see it.

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        Yeah, it’s not like we have complex social rituals, informal rules and elaborate signs and calls designed to establish the appropriateness of in-person interactions. I just punch anyone in the face that I don’t want to talk to me, that usually gets the message across. And if I want someone’s attention I just scream my demands at the top of my lungs an inch away from their face. If they don’t punch my face I assume they are fine with the conversation.

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        I for one do, which I why my phone autoblocks all incoming calls.

        If someone knocked on my door without warning for a non emergency I would find that quite rude.

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        In my experience, the younger you are, the more likely you are to find phone calls to be irritating at best. People in their 20s and under almost always would prefer you to text them than call them. And I’m in my 40s and I agree. I’ve never liked the phone. I didn’t like it when it was all landlines and I don’t like it now. Texting was a godsend.

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          Actually landlines was better… hear me out.

          “Fuck you, I’m not at the house.” ¯_(ツ)_/¯

          Wham bam thank you ma’am, you can’t contact me unless it’s on my terms.

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            Yeah and there are also times when texting makes the situation a lot more annoying but a 2 minute phone call does the opposite.

            I honestly can’t think of one. I’d rather spend five minutes writing a text than two minutes on the phone. That’s two minutes I have to talk to someone without looking at them.

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              Occasionally we have to set up events and doing a conference call is a hell of a lot less annoying than doing a group chat. Anyone who doesn’t want to be part of the planning can just opt out of the call rather than have their phone bing a million times in five minutes.

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                That insult was definitely warranted and appropriate to the discussion. Clearly this is the way forward.

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                    Again, totally warranted personal attack considering how many times I hurled invectives your way.

                    Remind me- how many times have I insulted you so far?

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                    you have 189 lemmy comments in 2 months of having the account… you shan’t be personally insulting anyone with shit you make up in your head about this kind of stuff lmao

                    touch grass

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        Instead of telling me what to do, why don’t you explain your position?

        Telling someone “no” is rude without supporting thoughts, which makes me think you aren’t a good authority on rudeness.

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        Well my opinion is that there is no reason for a company to call me unless it’s actually urgent and in my own best interest, at that point it is perfectly fine to call.

        Some companies call regardless of the reasons with no care at all about the customer/client/potential customer, all just to make sure to force a response. Just send the damn message instead of disturbing me at work, and If I have any sort interest, opinion, or care what so ever, then I’ll get in touch at my own discretion.

        Having customers isn’t a “right” for companies, but they do seem to believe so.