Idk maybe, but you sound a bit like my coworker. She overthinks shit to death more than anyone else I know. Because the times she doesn’t, she thinks this stuff happens, as you say.

And you know what…to some degree it can. But I think the bigger thing is to learn to be ok with the mess. Because you aren’t perfect. No one is. More relaxed people seem to be tolerant of a higher degree of “mess” that you are. And they lead much happier lives that way.

I know…easier said than done. And the “mess” can be scary and unpleasant. But learning to let go can really do wonders for mental health.