I tell my husband he sees with the eyes of love. Of course what he sees is better than what I see, but I still think I’m closer to objective about my looks. So while I absolutely appreciate his perception of my looks, no I don’t trust it.
ETA I am not unconfident about my looks. Fine going out in the world, feel good enough. I just know what I see doesn’t align with what he sees.
Yeah, my wife will often respond with “I know you think I’m beautiful” which I think means the same thing. But that’s kinda the point - beauty isn’t objective. If someone can see you’re beautiful, that means you’re beautiful, because humans are the ones who made up the concept of beauty, so we get to decide what meets the “beautiful” cutoff. Now, yes, that means you can decide that you don’t meet the cutoff, but why do that?
I tell my husband he sees with the eyes of love. Of course what he sees is better than what I see, but I still think I’m closer to objective about my looks. So while I absolutely appreciate his perception of my looks, no I don’t trust it.
ETA I am not unconfident about my looks. Fine going out in the world, feel good enough. I just know what I see doesn’t align with what he sees.
Yeah, my wife will often respond with “I know you think I’m beautiful” which I think means the same thing. But that’s kinda the point - beauty isn’t objective. If someone can see you’re beautiful, that means you’re beautiful, because humans are the ones who made up the concept of beauty, so we get to decide what meets the “beautiful” cutoff. Now, yes, that means you can decide that you don’t meet the cutoff, but why do that?