Yeah, this is a dynamic that I don’t think has happened on my relationships. i’ve done changes to accommodate my exes but i’ve never felt sex was used as leverage.
When I was much younger, I definitely would give in to other’s wants more easily than I do now and, looking back, I’m aware it was an effort to appease them more than making myself happy. They didn’t do anything wrong and neither did I, but if I could go back in time and say “No” instead, I would.
Relationships live in a lot of grey areas. That’s great that your relationships have been on equal footing in this regard :)
Now that you word it like that I can defo see situations wheres this dynamic might have played from her side. But that’s what failed loves are also for, learning yourself.
Yeah, this is a dynamic that I don’t think has happened on my relationships. i’ve done changes to accommodate my exes but i’ve never felt sex was used as leverage.
When I was much younger, I definitely would give in to other’s wants more easily than I do now and, looking back, I’m aware it was an effort to appease them more than making myself happy. They didn’t do anything wrong and neither did I, but if I could go back in time and say “No” instead, I would.
Relationships live in a lot of grey areas. That’s great that your relationships have been on equal footing in this regard :)
Now that you word it like that I can defo see situations wheres this dynamic might have played from her side. But that’s what failed loves are also for, learning yourself.