I don’t care if someone is rude. I care if they’re willing to discuss in good faith.
Someone being nice to me on here but seems to be manipulative is far worse in my view than someone who is aggressive and nasty but intellectually honest.
I can understand that, but to me they are at least loosely linked. Poor tone clouds a good argument and often is an indicator of a discussion in bad faith.
I will admit I have seen a handful of counter-examples over 3 years on Lemmy, where one or two commentors came out of the gate with an angry and accusatory stance, but both were able to reconcile with each other in later replies with cooler heads. I have more often seen much longer threads where flamebait begets a flamewar without going anywhere useful.
I’ve been in both. I tend to be pretty impatient and want to get to the crux of a core philosophical disagreement rather than waste time on reading people post 101 stuff at me though.
I don’t care if someone is rude. I care if they’re willing to discuss in good faith.
Someone being nice to me on here but seems to be manipulative is far worse in my view than someone who is aggressive and nasty but intellectually honest.
I can understand that, but to me they are at least loosely linked. Poor tone clouds a good argument and often is an indicator of a discussion in bad faith.
I will admit I have seen a handful of counter-examples over 3 years on Lemmy, where one or two commentors came out of the gate with an angry and accusatory stance, but both were able to reconcile with each other in later replies with cooler heads. I have more often seen much longer threads where flamebait begets a flamewar without going anywhere useful.
I’ve been in both. I tend to be pretty impatient and want to get to the crux of a core philosophical disagreement rather than waste time on reading people post 101 stuff at me though.