• ChexMax@lemmy.world
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    19 hours ago

    I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.

    That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.

    Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.

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      19 hours ago

      That’s a fair point. I should’ve kept my comment at miscarriages and not included stillbirths. I, too, have had miscarriages so I understand how it can fuck you up.

      I still doubt that’s what the OP meant though.