Yes, that’s what I mean. I’m unintentionally aggressive, but attempting to moderate that causes me to shutdown and not say anything instead. I’m making the conscious effort to speak instead of give into the obsession of over-moderating what I say to the point where I stop talking. So by making the choice to talk regardless, I’m intentionally being aggressive rather than quiet.

Dude was twisting my words and using fallacies to protect his paper thin “argument”. I did my best without directly insulting him. Well, until that last comment. Shouldn’t have done that.