Granted, but my point isn’t necessarily that the magnitude matters. It’s the fact that judging something as a “romantic” relationships generates these gray lines that make moral discussions like this one so blurry. Many people have relationships that blur the lines between romantic and platonic.
You don’t need everything to be absolute to make a declarative criticism.
No, but again, you can’t really draw a clean line around this problem. We all have diluted agency as a result of constantly taking in sense data: we’re products of our environments. I don’t think you can cleanly say that every relationship between a 44-year old man and a 19-year old woman is exploitative in nature.
Again, you don’t need every relationship in a system of abuse to be abusive to criticize the system of abuse.
There were slaves whose parents were their masters, who in fact loved their masters and were loved by their masters. There were slaves who wanted to return to slavery after the civil war. Does that mean I can’t definitively claim slavery is bad?
Or if you do believe that, wouldn’t you want to push for that to be codified as law? And if so, how would you codify it?
Law does not dictate morality. Lots of things that are immoral are perfectly legal. Legal systems are not perfect.
Either she’s wise enough and has enough agency to make decisions for herself, or she’s not. If it’s the latter, then you have to deal with the outcomes of that.
Yes, and I would say that is a horrible and likely outcome for most people in that situation. And those with the most agency who participate in that relationship should be criticized.
I don’t buy that this is exclusively a “romantic relationship” problem. If the point is that 19-year olds are too ignorant to realize that a 44-year old man showing interest in them is “predatory,” surely that problem extends to other components of their agency.
When did I say it was exclusive to romantic relationships. What I said is that ranit relationship like this were more problematic because the potential for abuse is much greater. That being said, a older more powerful person abusing a younger colleague or friends is also bad and should be criticized.
Literally the person in this photo. They’ve been together for 13 years, right? I don’t know how you tell the difference in the beginning, but if you tell someone they can’t do it (which, you’re effectively doing by publicly shaming their relationship), then how many people are being deprived of a meaningful relationship. Why are you the arbiter of when someone has agency and when they don’t?
Which is why I said how often… Again, you are excusing the majority for the sake of the outliers. Also, we really have no idea what this individual creations is like behind closed doors. Plenty of abusive relationships go on for decades.
Why are you the arbiter of when someone has agency and when they don’t?
Again… When did I say I was? I am just being critical of the guy in their 40s dating a teen.
it’s about invalidating the argument that disgust is a reasonable tool for determining morality of an action. That’s one of your points, as evidenced in the next line.
Lol, the disgust is just one expression of the many criticism I have already laid out. It’s not that I am having my ethical construct dictated to me by social mores. I have articulated my reasoning, you just choose to ignore them.
I guess I don’t understand your point at all then. You’re saying that even though Corgan is “disgusting and predatory,” his actions may well lead to happiness for him and the person he way “praying” on? On what planet does the word “pray” mean to make someone else happy? Oh no, I’m being prayed on by the compliment fairy! Keep it away!
You can have a happy slave, does that mean the slave owner isnt predatory or disgusting? Also it’s prey, not pray.
think you’re so focused on the older person here that you are failing to realize that you’re reducing the younger person to an automaton.
Because the older person has the power in the relationship. Keeping with the slavery comparison. Does a slave have the ability to choose not to be a slave? Yes, they could flee north, a lot of slaves did. However, it’s dangerous, they could fail to get away and be punished severely. Could a slave have a “good” master? Yes, lots of slaves were literal family members of their masters who were loved and loved their owners. Does that mean the concept of slavery is good? Does that mean all slaves had zero agency?
You don’t need everything to be absolute to make a declarative criticism.
Again, you don’t need every relationship in a system of abuse to be abusive to criticize the system of abuse.
There were slaves whose parents were their masters, who in fact loved their masters and were loved by their masters. There were slaves who wanted to return to slavery after the civil war. Does that mean I can’t definitively claim slavery is bad?
Law does not dictate morality. Lots of things that are immoral are perfectly legal. Legal systems are not perfect.
Yes, and I would say that is a horrible and likely outcome for most people in that situation. And those with the most agency who participate in that relationship should be criticized.
When did I say it was exclusive to romantic relationships. What I said is that ranit relationship like this were more problematic because the potential for abuse is much greater. That being said, a older more powerful person abusing a younger colleague or friends is also bad and should be criticized.
Which is why I said how often… Again, you are excusing the majority for the sake of the outliers. Also, we really have no idea what this individual creations is like behind closed doors. Plenty of abusive relationships go on for decades.
Again… When did I say I was? I am just being critical of the guy in their 40s dating a teen.
Lol, the disgust is just one expression of the many criticism I have already laid out. It’s not that I am having my ethical construct dictated to me by social mores. I have articulated my reasoning, you just choose to ignore them.
You can have a happy slave, does that mean the slave owner isnt predatory or disgusting? Also it’s prey, not pray.
Because the older person has the power in the relationship. Keeping with the slavery comparison. Does a slave have the ability to choose not to be a slave? Yes, they could flee north, a lot of slaves did. However, it’s dangerous, they could fail to get away and be punished severely. Could a slave have a “good” master? Yes, lots of slaves were literal family members of their masters who were loved and loved their owners. Does that mean the concept of slavery is good? Does that mean all slaves had zero agency?