Never met her but there’s a chance she might genuinely not have known.
My grandparents and great-grandparents thought a lot of family stuff was worth something but they never actually got it professionally valued. One thing that really stuck out was an ornate silver tea set that looked really nice, was in great condition, was a complete set, hallmarked, turned out to be worth fuck all because nobody actually wants silver tea sets in the 21st century, but they were a big thing a hundred years ago so there’s millions of them out there flooding the market.
There was also a minor hoo-hah over inheritance of the family piano, which then turned out to be a mass-produced budget model that was no longer physically able to be tuned to concert pitch without risk of damage. Turns out budget pianos don’t become antique, they just become old and you have to pay someone to take it away.
You’re probably correct… For most people’s mothers. No, I know mine and I’m positive it was a power play on her part. The reason why I say that is because when she died, my brothers, Dad and I went through her things and guess what we found?
If you guessed items that actually had value, either sentimentally or financially you’d get a prize.
So she purposely separated anything of value from the junk. Then gave the junk to me and my brothers. My brothers also went through their items and sure enough it was all junk. Of course the apples don’t fall too far from the tree. So when our Dad died two years ago my two brothers kept everything. We are all now permanently estranged as far as I’m concerned.
So yeah, I had a fun family growing up. My wife and kids are now fully protected and will never see those people again.
But just to be clear, my family is not rich. I’m not talking about enough money to make dealing with narcissistic power plays worth it.
Never met her but there’s a chance she might genuinely not have known.
My grandparents and great-grandparents thought a lot of family stuff was worth something but they never actually got it professionally valued. One thing that really stuck out was an ornate silver tea set that looked really nice, was in great condition, was a complete set, hallmarked, turned out to be worth fuck all because nobody actually wants silver tea sets in the 21st century, but they were a big thing a hundred years ago so there’s millions of them out there flooding the market.
There was also a minor hoo-hah over inheritance of the family piano, which then turned out to be a mass-produced budget model that was no longer physically able to be tuned to concert pitch without risk of damage. Turns out budget pianos don’t become antique, they just become old and you have to pay someone to take it away.
You’re probably correct… For most people’s mothers. No, I know mine and I’m positive it was a power play on her part. The reason why I say that is because when she died, my brothers, Dad and I went through her things and guess what we found?
If you guessed items that actually had value, either sentimentally or financially you’d get a prize.
So she purposely separated anything of value from the junk. Then gave the junk to me and my brothers. My brothers also went through their items and sure enough it was all junk. Of course the apples don’t fall too far from the tree. So when our Dad died two years ago my two brothers kept everything. We are all now permanently estranged as far as I’m concerned.
So yeah, I had a fun family growing up. My wife and kids are now fully protected and will never see those people again.
But just to be clear, my family is not rich. I’m not talking about enough money to make dealing with narcissistic power plays worth it.