This is a throw away account, in case I end up working with someone that reads this post.
I’ve been lurking on this community with my main account for a few months now. I have ideas on what I’d like to self-host but between my ADHD, perfectionism, and anxiety, I’m frozen.
I need help selecting and implementing an initial set up. I’m not an IT professional but I’m a reasonably advanced user, so I’m confident I can do the setup work and ongoing management myself. I just need someone to:
- Discuss the big picture of what’s involved in self-hosting and help fill in gaps in my understanding;
- Help me decide on the best initial setup for my needs and skill level;
- Hold my hand during the setup phase and make sure I’m not doing anything stupid;
- Ideally be available long term for the occassional question.
I’m willing to pay a fair hourly rate for this assistance. If someone in this community is interested, please dm me. You might want to use a throw away for that too, assuming this work can’t be done anonymously.
Alternatively, any suggestions for good websites to find a consultant, and what skills I should be looking for, would also be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for reading. Wishing you all the best for 2026.
Edit: I appreciate all the offers for free help on this forum.
I perhaps didn’t explain well enough that what I really need is a knowledgeable coach, who can get me moving and provide guidance. I bought the Official Pi-hole Raspberry Pi 4 Kit a few months ago and it’s still sitting on my desk gathering dust. Embarrassing but true.
Whatever you do, and whoever you end up working with, document document document. Take notes.
And I mean on paper, in a notebook, something that can’t crash or get accidentally deleted and doesn’t require electricity to operate.
You’re doing this for yourself, not for a boss, which means you can take the time to keep track of the details. This will be especially important for ongoing maintenance.
Write down a list of things you imagine having on your network, then classify them as essential vs. desired (needs and wants), then prioritize them.
As you buy hardware, write down the name, model and serial number and the price (so that you can list it on your renter’s/homeowner’s insurance). As you set up the devices, also add the MAC and assigned IP address(es) to each device description, and also list the specific services that are running on that device. If you buy something new that comes with a support contract, write down the information for that.
Draw a network diagram (it doesn’t have to be complicated or super professional, but visualizing the layout and connections between things is very helpful)
When you set up a service, write down what it’s for and what clients will have access to it. Write down the reference(s) you used. And then write down the login details. I don’t care what advice you’ve heard about writing down passwords, just do it in the notebook so that you can get back into the services you’ve set up. Six months from now when you need to log in to that background service to update the software you will have forgotten the password. If a person you don’t trust has physical access to your home network notebook, you have a much more serious problem than worrying about your router password.
My handwriting has deteriorated quite a bit over the decades and if I were to document on paper, I probably wouldn’t ever be able to decipher it. I do back up my digital documentation in separate, multiple storage containers. I do agree with documenting being key to surviving your self hosting journey. It will also help others help you when you know exactly the steps you have taken or tried. One of my former bosses would tell me ‘If you didn’t write it down, it didn’t happen.’
Personally, I have tremendous issues with paper notebooks. I love them for random notes, but not structuring things. I started a blog a year or so ago, and it was very rewarding to document everything there. My blog is not online yet, but I plan to publish it within a month or so. If things are good, maybe the next week even.
I wanted to tell others that if you want any help setting up a simple blog for yourself, you’re welcome to ping me, I can help you with setting that up, and you may see what difference it makes! I so so so wish I had that done years ago, but at least I started already.