It’s not about being sensible. If you were a sensible parent you wouldn’t have gotten to this stage anyway.
You don’t get to the “destroying stuff” phase without a whole lot of prerequisite parenting failures. Fucking up a lot as a parent by being rigid, do-as-I-say, poor communicator, might-makes-right, and constantly using major threats as coercion to get what you want out of a kid.
So once the kid figures out that, no matter what they do, they’re gonna constantly be in the shit they stop caring about the consequences because it doesn’t change. So the parent will ratchet it up to the destroying stuff phase.
(And a caveat - there’s potential for neurospicy issues with a kid that should be checked, or even a parent, but odds are a family like this isn’t big into mental health anyway. Too many alternative causes to get all pedantic about)
It’s not about being sensible. If you were a sensible parent you wouldn’t have gotten to this stage anyway.
You don’t get to the “destroying stuff” phase without a whole lot of prerequisite parenting failures. Fucking up a lot as a parent by being rigid, do-as-I-say, poor communicator, might-makes-right, and constantly using major threats as coercion to get what you want out of a kid.
So once the kid figures out that, no matter what they do, they’re gonna constantly be in the shit they stop caring about the consequences because it doesn’t change. So the parent will ratchet it up to the destroying stuff phase.
(And a caveat - there’s potential for neurospicy issues with a kid that should be checked, or even a parent, but odds are a family like this isn’t big into mental health anyway. Too many alternative causes to get all pedantic about)