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  • People who do compete without a set goal (e.g. I win this cup, get the prize money and go do X that I want to do) are victims of bullshit.

    That is a wild take.

    To borrow from Daniel Pink’s book “Drive” which focuses on motivation theory, external motivators like money or prizes take you nowhere near as far as internal motivators. You are more likely to succeed generally and reach higher levels of performance if your motivation is intrinsic because you give that motivation to yourself and it is self-amplifying. Of course, his bent is more business-meets-academia, but I would struggle to see a world where it doesn’t also apply here. Would you just up and start a new hobby because you won the local competition?

    It seems to me that by your logic you go take a karate class so you can get a black belt and then quit? Where’s the satisfaction in that? I don’t think that’s a problem of being a “victim of bullshit”, it’s about the pursuit of excellence for its own sake.



  • dream_weasel@sh.itjust.workstomemes@lemmy.worldWhy they always do this?
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    I’m telling you I like to compete and by every metric I’m probably both healthier and more capable than you as a result. I’m glad you’re working on it, but the difference between us is not “patriarchy” no matter how you shoehorn it, it is more likely not being in good shape and trying to catch up. I like attention as a motivator sure, but success and improvement are their own rewards. People can just be just more motivated than you. Bodybuilding and powerlifting are both things people enjoy for their own sake.

    Society isn’t the thing keeping you down, it’s the law of averages. Most people suck. At everything. All the time. Welcome.


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    Why not?

    I increase weight and duration to be able to do more or go longer than than other people which brings feelings of accomplishment. It also brings all the benefits you describe. You don’t HAVE to compete, but that doesn’t mean that people who do compete are just victims of the patriarchy, that’s an absurd take.

    It’s almost like we can all do things for different reasons and you don’t have a monopoly on why people should do a thing.


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    Take me down your line of thought because I don’t see how Occam’s razor applies. Everyone likes to be perceived as attractive or MORE attractive. It’s not just women who take GLP-1s or get plastic surgery. And it’s not just ugly people or pretty people, it’s everybody. It’s nicer to be desirable by popular standards than not. That’s not the patriarchy, that’s comparative evaluation for mate selection.

    And if you’re not into that it’s fine, but everyone likes to be viewed as attractive.

    I find the “bruh it’s the patriarchy” to be, frankly, pretty fucking dumb.


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    That strikes me as a super cop out. People just like to be noticed and recognized and the more of it you have, the more of it you want, just like wealth.

    I don’t go to the gym because of unrealistic male body standards, I do it because it feels good to be noticed even after you’ve got kids and you’re happily married. It feels good to win and it feels bad to lose but if you have to lose at least you can crab bucket?





  • They are still custom because people aren’t all exactly the same shape and size even before amputations. That said though I presume you don’t want small pieces of bones or like partial smaller bones beneath a prosthesis. Like it makes sense to keep fingers on a hand. But if it’s just an arm then wrist bones that doesn’t seem ideal. I’m not a doctor. But it seems to me if you have a choice how a limb is severed there’s probably a “best” way to do it.