when it’s your boss and your family and other people who have influence over your life, you tend to give a a lot of fucks about what they think.

not everyone is an atomized detached person, or has a job that isn’t influenced by their personal choices.

a lot of people think a man who isn’t working, and making bank while doing so, is a worthless piece of shit human being. any role where a man isn’t doing both those things makes him worthless. including so called progressive anti-gender folks, also think this way.