Is it so hard to just say what you mean the first time though?
“Hey, please do the dishes. It makes me upset to see them not done and I’m always the one doing them.”
Problem solved.
Instead the way you said you did it leaves so much open to interpretation “I don’t understand why he is all pissed off today I made sure the pan he was upset about not having last time was clean this time!!”
The you go on to say “make your expectations and desires clear” lol what the fuck.
God I hate people that do shit like this. Say what you mean. I kind of feel this “use your big words” meme to be completely honest. You would have had to say what you wanted one time instead of being cryptic about this pan or that glass or whatever while you slowly get more and more pissed each time and she’s slowly wondering what the fuck she is doing wrong each time.
The always having to tell her to do ANY chores is ridiculous but that would also have been another full sentence to put together and maybe make a list with check marks on it or something idk man but coming home and being like “I can’t use this pan when its crusty like this” isn’t communicating very well. Say what you mean to people the first time.
We all work full time jobs we shouldn’t have to come home and figure out interpretive dance or whatever. Just say what you mean.
I’ve had managers and significant others like this and I truly don’t understand it at all. We have perfected the use if words for communication for over 5000 years now. Use the words.
Is it so hard to just say what you mean the first time though?
“Hey, please do the dishes. It makes me upset to see them not done and I’m always the one doing them.”
Problem solved.
Instead the way you said you did it leaves so much open to interpretation “I don’t understand why he is all pissed off today I made sure the pan he was upset about not having last time was clean this time!!”
The you go on to say “make your expectations and desires clear” lol what the fuck.
God I hate people that do shit like this. Say what you mean. I kind of feel this “use your big words” meme to be completely honest. You would have had to say what you wanted one time instead of being cryptic about this pan or that glass or whatever while you slowly get more and more pissed each time and she’s slowly wondering what the fuck she is doing wrong each time.
The always having to tell her to do ANY chores is ridiculous but that would also have been another full sentence to put together and maybe make a list with check marks on it or something idk man but coming home and being like “I can’t use this pan when its crusty like this” isn’t communicating very well. Say what you mean to people the first time.
We all work full time jobs we shouldn’t have to come home and figure out interpretive dance or whatever. Just say what you mean.
I’ve had managers and significant others like this and I truly don’t understand it at all. We have perfected the use if words for communication for over 5000 years now. Use the words.