• Libertus@lemmy.world
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    14 hours ago

    You are mixing two things here. Staring is not assaulting. This thread here is about staring. Regarding sexual (or other physical) assault: anyone can be physically assaulted regardless of their gender or age. Nothing justifies it, but wearing or behaving provocatively blurs the boundaries. I won’t go deep into the details of human psycho-sexual intricacies, because this isn’t a place for this, and also, judging by the number of downvotes, I see that this topic might be too difficult for some individuals to comprehend.

    • Grail@multiverse.soulism.net
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      12 hours ago

      I think you misunderstood Me. I’m talking about if I, a random stranger who doesn’t know anything about your wife’s story, happens to stare at her ass the afternoon after she was sexually assaulted by an alt-right podcaster. Cause unless she went home to get changed, she’s still gonna be in her sexy outfit. So she could be feeling horrible and not want any attention, but I wouldn’t know it. And I might stare at her butt, because you said it’s okay and I don’t know what happened earlier.

      • Test_Tickles@lemmy.world
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        10 hours ago

        I don’t want to come off as agreeing with the other poster, but this argument is so awful that I can’t just ignore it.
        What if the assaulter was tall? Am I supposed to slouch all day everyday? Am I literally not allowed to exist because there are horrible people in the world of varying height?

        • Grail@multiverse.soulism.net
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          10 hours ago

          I’m gonna be honest with you, chief: I’m gay and I love boobies and butts. I stare all the time. I try to do it in a way that doesn’t cause discomfort, but if I’m behind a nice ass on the stairs, I’m gonna enjoy the view.

          The only part of the above argument that I’m interested in debunking is the idea that clothes are consent. Since clothes can’t always be changed, clothes as a form of consent is difficult to revoke. And any consent that can’t be revoked isn’t legitimate.

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            1 hour ago

            I can totally agree with that and I think your destination is absolutely the right place. I think you just chose the wrong way to get there.

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      13 hours ago

      Or maybe its not as clean cut you make it out to be. I respect your decision to not talk this out in this forum but ‘they stupid’ is a very $choose your adjective response.