Because no one I’m seeing in these comments is bringing it up, there is something to be said for wanting to do a thing yourself. Sure, if the goal is just orgasms, shove her on a sybian and go play video games. It’ll be very efficient. However, if your goal is to engage in a shared experience where each of you is dedicating yourself to the labor of pleasuring the other in the most intimate way possible, even if it doesn’t result in an orgasm, then the vibrator is not working toward your goal. Look at oral. Almost no person is going to orgasm from giving oral. We do it as an act of love, giving pleasure to a partner without pleasure being automatically recieved. A vibe will make your partner cum whether or not you are there. The genAI of orgasms, a machine producing using raw electric power what a person would produce using skill and emotion. Using it doesn’t have the same demonstration effect. There is a special satisfaction in being the one who puts in the work to bring a partner to orgasm, and a special satisfaction that comes from being the one they are willing to put real effort into bringing to an orgasm. Which one matters more to you is subjective but this take is overly flattening while pretending to be enlightened.
You can use a vibrator on someone, even integrate them into normal PIV sex. Sex toys are your teammates, not your competition. Then again I’m a lesbian and we don’t have as many hang-ups about using sex toys during sex.
That’s just repeating the concept in the OP and ignoring my point. There is a value in the personal touch. Which would signal a better partner to you: a woman who knows you like to have food sometimes so she installs a vending machine in your apartment with all the options set to ice cream and the prices at 0.00, so you can always have as much of this one thing to eat, any time, any day, with or without her, as you like as long as you keep paying for power,
or one who knows you like food, so she figures out what you like and dislike, learns recipes that she thinks will make you happy, spends time finding or growing good produce to make those recipes, and only when she’s feeling ill or burned out by work, reaches for the vending machine? The vending machine is always there as an option, but not wanting to use it is not just weakness. It’s often a desire to be the best version of yourself for your partner, not as a competition with the machine but a competition with the limitations of human language and form to express the inexpressible extent of your love.
Because no one I’m seeing in these comments is bringing it up, there is something to be said for wanting to do a thing yourself. Sure, if the goal is just orgasms, shove her on a sybian and go play video games. It’ll be very efficient. However, if your goal is to engage in a shared experience where each of you is dedicating yourself to the labor of pleasuring the other in the most intimate way possible, even if it doesn’t result in an orgasm, then the vibrator is not working toward your goal. Look at oral. Almost no person is going to orgasm from giving oral. We do it as an act of love, giving pleasure to a partner without pleasure being automatically recieved. A vibe will make your partner cum whether or not you are there. The genAI of orgasms, a machine producing using raw electric power what a person would produce using skill and emotion. Using it doesn’t have the same demonstration effect. There is a special satisfaction in being the one who puts in the work to bring a partner to orgasm, and a special satisfaction that comes from being the one they are willing to put real effort into bringing to an orgasm. Which one matters more to you is subjective but this take is overly flattening while pretending to be enlightened.
You can use a vibrator on someone, even integrate them into normal PIV sex. Sex toys are your teammates, not your competition. Then again I’m a lesbian and we don’t have as many hang-ups about using sex toys during sex.
That’s just repeating the concept in the OP and ignoring my point. There is a value in the personal touch. Which would signal a better partner to you: a woman who knows you like to have food sometimes so she installs a vending machine in your apartment with all the options set to ice cream and the prices at 0.00, so you can always have as much of this one thing to eat, any time, any day, with or without her, as you like as long as you keep paying for power, or one who knows you like food, so she figures out what you like and dislike, learns recipes that she thinks will make you happy, spends time finding or growing good produce to make those recipes, and only when she’s feeling ill or burned out by work, reaches for the vending machine? The vending machine is always there as an option, but not wanting to use it is not just weakness. It’s often a desire to be the best version of yourself for your partner, not as a competition with the machine but a competition with the limitations of human language and form to express the inexpressible extent of your love.